I think you're confusing me with someone else. I'm not saying we're to be "hard on sin" in the sense of being a jerk all the time or preaching 100% fire & brimstone. My point is that we have far too much dismissing of sin these days, and it leaves us with a bunch of shrugging "mistakers." If it's just a mistake, we can correct it. The fact of the matter is that we're to love Jesus and hate sin.

Don't confuse me with someone who thinks it's a bad idea to hang out with sinners. As you've already pointed out, we're all sinners. In Christ, we're to be fishers of men. We have to remember that we were all fish once, too.

As far as the judging goes, I think this is another area we get mixed up on. "Judge not, lest ye be judged" seems pretty ultimate to me. So, no, I can't pronounce any judgment on someone's soul or destiny. That would be silly. An equally silly stance is that we're somehow incapable of judging what actions are unwise or sinful, and completely keeping our mouths shut about it. I see that you're reacting to people who shove their single-agenda opinions in others' faces, but I'm not one of them. If someone's professing to be a Christian, I will admonish them as a brother in the faith. If they're of the world, I'm not going to beat them over the head with what will sound like foolishness to them. If they ask, I tell. Otherwise, I try to be tactful-yet-straight about sharing what I'm about.

At the end of the day, Christians worship a homeless guy (who happened to be God) that got killed for speaking the truth. (and thank Him for rising again, lest our faith be pitied above all) People aren't always going to like what we have to say. That doesn't mean we go out of our way to be jerks, but we also shouldn't pull punches when people ask us questions like "Biblically, should I be sleeping with my girlfriend?"