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It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable. Helene Send a noteboard - 18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM
E.g. your post about reading books in 4 different languages, and then asking others who if they know which books they are and if they'll read them too, or would be interested in reading them...

Hardly anyone here speaks that many languages. Yes, there are people who do, but most people don't. This alienates people, as hardly anyone likes it when they are clearly being excluded. So they dislike you, or at least aren't attracted to you as someone they would become friends with.

You make it a habit to post things that excludes the majority of people. This means that either you are posting in the wrong place (e.g. post these things where the majority speaks 4 languages), or you are posting the wrong things.

What is it that you want from here? If you want friends, then you would be better served in paying attention to what qualities in you would make you attractive as a friend. If you want people's admiration, then you'd be better served if you showed you were knowledgeable/wise without showing off quite so much.
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Re: Agreed...but TaskmasterJack - 17/03/2011 11:30:42 PM 824 Views
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Thanks Larry - 18/03/2011 09:48:49 PM 941 Views
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I like you. Lady Mystery - 18/03/2011 01:10:16 PM 827 Views
*splutters* rebelaessedai - 19/03/2011 04:45:03 AM 729 Views
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Really. rebelaessedai - 19/03/2011 04:41:46 AM 877 Views
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It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable. Helene - 18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM 950 Views
I always took those posts as attempts to include people. Joel - 18/03/2011 05:33:55 PM 861 Views
That's a very positive outlook, which perhaps is shared by others *NM* Helene - 18/03/2011 09:13:43 PM 290 Views
Hope so; try thinking in terms of what fantasy used to be like. Joel - 22/03/2011 11:19:36 PM 917 Views
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Offering a perspective. Helene - 18/03/2011 10:03:58 PM 792 Views
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