I do have some prudish tendencies, but that's a me thing. I'm admitting that for the sake of the conversation, to show you that I cannot completely exclude myself; however, I'm the prudiest of my friends, and that is still barely prudy. For one thing, I enjoy going down on a man. And then there is my best friend, who wants a "benefits" man with no connections (she likes living in her own house with no commitments). Another very close friend is essentially polygamous, and barely waits to know a man before hooking up. She's careful, but if it seems fun and not too stupid, she's up for it.

I really think you're looking at the worst examples and then claiming that all American women are that way. I've literally mentally gone through the list of my female friends, and I can't think of any sex withholding stories - I'm coming up with a lot more "man, we probably shouldn't have sexed each other up that way, I have rug burns on my spine" kinda stories. And none of us is trashy, so maybe your male friends are making bad choices?


I have no trouble admitting that we probably have more body issues (after all, as I said, that's a big part of my thing), but I still think you're selling us short by looking at a few extreme examples. Or maybe your friends should move to Indiana, because it's my experience that is abnormal....