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Hell, don't apologize to us. And run with the pain, not from it. Tom Send a noteboard - 15/03/2017 02:46:26 PM

I can't personally say that I've experienced what you have. But I do know that my friend had a horrendous experience - her 3-year-old was murdered. She told me that she didn't really even start to feel better until after about a half a year later, and even now, several years later, it is still only just bearable. The best thing you can do at this point is not to deny the pain. Grieve. People used to wear black, or black armbands, for a year or more to show they were mourning so that we knew how hard it was. Don't fight the pain. Run with it, not from it. And yes, at a certain point, it might get to be almost bearable. Then, a few years after that, it might be manageable. But Hell, it's not going to happen overnight, or even in a few months. Just let it out, and keep letting it out, and keep going through every day the best you can.

Political correctness is the pettiest form of casuistry.

ἡ δὲ κἀκ τριῶν τρυπημάτων ἐργαζομένη ἐνεκάλει τῇ φύσει, δυσφορουμένη, ὅτι δὴ μὴ καὶ τοὺς τιτθοὺς αὐτῇ εὐρύτερον ἢ νῦν εἰσι τρυπώη, ὅπως καὶ ἄλλην ἐνταῦθα μίξιν ἐπιτεχνᾶσθαι δυνατὴ εἴη. – Procopius

Ummaka qinnassa nīk!

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I apologize to all of you for what I am about to write. - 15/03/2017 03:12:32 AM 934 Views
The only thing I can say..... - 15/03/2017 03:46:59 AM 752 Views
yes, that's true. - 15/03/2017 03:35:43 PM 728 Views
A geek's answer - 15/03/2017 05:39:33 AM 788 Views
I'm impressed. - 15/03/2017 03:23:46 PM 695 Views
All right. This might be worth you reading, then. - 15/03/2017 06:19:00 AM 761 Views
I agree with the basic concept. - 15/03/2017 03:21:42 PM 680 Views
You have no need to apologize. - 15/03/2017 10:59:02 AM 771 Views
That's an excellent suggestion. - 15/03/2017 03:17:59 PM 698 Views
You feel what you feel. And you don't need to say sorry. - 15/03/2017 12:11:22 PM 659 Views
I hate to burden others - 15/03/2017 03:16:57 PM 689 Views
You're apologizing for the wrong thing. - 15/03/2017 12:28:57 PM 819 Views
I've never had any macho issues with showing my feelings - 15/03/2017 03:14:54 PM 707 Views
<3 - 15/03/2017 06:07:56 PM 613 Views
*hugs* *NM* - 15/03/2017 01:59:03 PM 373 Views
*hugs back. hard* *NM* - 15/03/2017 03:10:42 PM 363 Views
We are here for you. *NM* - 15/03/2017 02:18:04 PM 483 Views
Hell, don't apologize to us. And run with the pain, not from it. - 15/03/2017 02:46:26 PM 689 Views
I can't imagine what it would be like to have your child murdered. - 15/03/2017 03:10:00 PM 668 Views
**manhugs with loving back pats** *NM* - 15/03/2017 03:20:37 PM 400 Views
I'm Italian-American. Italian men hug. *NM* - 16/03/2017 01:34:29 AM 384 Views
I'm glad you can share with us and maybe, just maybe, get some comfort from us. - 15/03/2017 05:27:33 PM 657 Views
It's more than just maybe - 15/03/2017 06:13:13 PM 693 Views
There is bleeding all over the internet and there is true sharing that touches everyone who reads it - 15/03/2017 06:52:25 PM 680 Views
That's a good point and one I think of constantly. - 16/03/2017 12:21:49 AM 737 Views
There is no shame in this.... - 15/03/2017 07:46:43 PM 799 Views
Thanks, Jeo - 16/03/2017 12:26:29 AM 737 Views
Like the others said... - 15/03/2017 08:22:14 PM 720 Views
me too - 16/03/2017 12:22:52 AM 624 Views
A deep cut to your heart... - 15/03/2017 09:16:40 PM 738 Views
Re: A deep cut to your heart... - 16/03/2017 12:27:52 AM 697 Views
Oh Mook, Thank you for sharing. - 16/03/2017 05:03:21 PM 922 Views
No apology needed... - 19/03/2017 03:15:01 PM 688 Views

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