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Congratulations *NM* Stephen Send a noteboard - 12/02/2010 03:47:28 PM
It's official. Last Friday I asked Vincent to marry me. The occasion was our 250 weekaversary. This is what happened.

For months, I've known that I would ask him. I've contemplated many surprise city trips, hotel trips, weekend getaways. But on the one hand considering the financial limitations in light of our trip to the US early May, and on the other hand my worries that I might just pick a really shitty place and that'd always be the place where we'd gotten engaged and therefore special... I ended up deciding that since Vincent's favourite place in the world is Amsterdam, we'd stay here.

I'd arranged that Vincent would keep the weekend available and Vijay would stay with my parents. I asked him early in the day, during our after sex cuddling (I figured I'd better ask when he's at his most vulnerable! Muahahaha). He said yes!

From then on, we let the weekend be decided by fate. We'd put different lunch places and restaurants on little pieces of paper, and Vincent would pick one and that's where we'd go!

On Saturday we went to buy rings. Originally we thought that it would take a while to find the right ones, but we found the perfect rings (for us) within half an hour!

The Netherlands doesn't have the huge diamond tradition. We both got brushed silver rings, about 4-5 mm wide, flat surface. Mine has a shiny second ring placed diagonally around it, which is much thinner and round (like a string). As you can hear, they're simple, yet elegant (at least, that's what I think!).

We haven't set a wedding date yet. The idea is that we'll be engaged for some years. I realize it's unusual, but really, we'll need that time to find the perfect cake!
"I mean, if everyone had a soul, there would be no contrast by which we could appreciate it. For giving us this perspective, we thank you." - Nate
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Announcement: Vincent and I are engaged - 11/02/2010 10:38:57 AM 1459 Views
Congratulations!! - 11/02/2010 10:52:32 AM 809 Views
Thank you! - 11/02/2010 11:02:50 AM 758 Views
Re: Thank you! - 11/02/2010 01:07:37 PM 872 Views
Elaborate! - 11/02/2010 01:14:54 PM 792 Views
- 11/02/2010 03:46:05 PM 789 Views
ehehehe, she is so going to kill you. *NM* - 11/02/2010 03:51:27 PM 403 Views
Her silence has me even more worried now... *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:37:23 AM 420 Views
Entirely out of the loop... *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:06:21 AM 405 Views
I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 12/02/2010 09:36:38 AM 797 Views
Re: I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 13/02/2010 07:01:19 AM 799 Views
Congratulations! - 11/02/2010 11:19:45 AM 818 Views
Definitely true - 11/02/2010 11:59:13 AM 762 Views
Congrats to both of you. - 11/02/2010 11:52:53 AM 1031 Views
That's a tall order - 11/02/2010 12:01:30 PM 777 Views
I'm sure you're up to it. - 11/02/2010 12:10:36 PM 822 Views
Thanks for your faith in me - 11/02/2010 12:38:56 PM 802 Views
Welcome; I often have more faith in a person than in people. - 13/02/2010 09:45:48 AM 1296 Views
Oo! - 11/02/2010 12:10:06 PM 893 Views
Pictures of what? The cake? The rings? Us? - 11/02/2010 12:41:12 PM 784 Views
Congratulations. Have a wonderful day. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:15:06 PM 478 Views
That'll be rather a while - years. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:00 PM 400 Views
Very cool. Congrats. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:34:31 PM 449 Views
Thank you! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:10 PM 423 Views
Congrats! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:59:18 PM 415 Views
Yay. Thanks! *NM* - 11/02/2010 01:04:59 PM 464 Views
Congratulations! That's lovely. - 11/02/2010 01:03:05 PM 784 Views
Ack! - 11/02/2010 01:04:00 PM 799 Views
The planning's the fun bit. - 11/02/2010 01:04:54 PM 813 Views
- 11/02/2010 01:11:46 PM 767 Views
Not yet - 11/02/2010 01:15:23 PM 834 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:42:52 PM 696 Views
Thanks, and I'm a little confused - 11/02/2010 01:44:57 PM 780 Views
Yes - 11/02/2010 02:57:40 PM 776 Views
Figures... it's not normal in the Netherlands, though - 11/02/2010 03:37:17 PM 768 Views
Diamonds are gross. - 12/02/2010 03:59:10 PM 750 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:55:36 PM 783 Views
Re: Congrats! - 11/02/2010 02:10:49 PM 741 Views
Awww... - 11/02/2010 03:38:45 PM 757 Views
Awww - 11/02/2010 02:09:41 PM 840 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 02:14:10 PM 816 Views
Congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 02:19:33 PM 427 Views
Congratulations. *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:44:27 PM 411 Views
congrats *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:47:39 PM 553 Views
yaaaay!!! congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 05:10:46 PM 436 Views
*gasp* Chick ain't supposed to ask the dude! - 11/02/2010 06:39:16 PM 841 Views
In gay marriages, does the top always ask the bottom? *NM* - 11/02/2010 07:27:11 PM 437 Views
I'm not sure, actually. More often than not, probably. - 11/02/2010 07:28:58 PM 769 Views
He better ask for my blessing first!!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:05 PM 411 Views
We'll see. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:09:07 PM 388 Views
Im definitely more top in my relationship and I mention all the important stuff first - 11/02/2010 08:05:15 PM 745 Views
Top? Pfffft. Y'all are total lesbians. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:10:01 PM 392 Views
Who would have thought conventional roles was you thing. - 11/02/2010 08:03:57 PM 690 Views
I'm totally on board with role....playing. - 11/02/2010 08:07:54 PM 750 Views
Why not? - 12/02/2010 07:08:03 AM 773 Views
It's....it's....it's just not done! *scandalized horror-stricken look* - 12/02/2010 09:48:17 PM 781 Views
I did it anyway! Muahahahaha. Also, I picked him up. - 13/02/2010 07:02:42 AM 739 Views
Good work! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:02:57 PM 337 Views
Congratulations!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:39 PM 386 Views
Awesome. - 11/02/2010 08:33:59 PM 914 Views
Owwww.. no it's not. SF all the way baby! - 12/02/2010 07:11:19 AM 757 Views
Congratulations, Helene ! - 12/02/2010 01:03:48 AM 947 Views
We're at least already well on our way, so far *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:13:05 AM 403 Views
Did you say,"... doesn't have the huge diamond tradition"? Sounds like I need a Dutch girl! - 12/02/2010 02:49:49 AM 791 Views
Dutch girls are a lot of fun, too *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:12:27 AM 394 Views
And they'll pay for their own dinner when you take them out, too! - 12/02/2010 12:06:15 PM 773 Views
Not all of us are that tall - 12/02/2010 12:28:51 PM 744 Views
How wonderful! Congratulations! - 12/02/2010 03:11:02 PM 759 Views
Thank you so much and of course - 12/02/2010 06:31:42 PM 852 Views
Are you both in Amsterdam now, or will we have to add Leiden to our itinerary? *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:44:01 PM 384 Views
Why isn't Leiden on your itinerary already? - 12/02/2010 09:39:02 PM 730 Views
Where do you live? - 12/02/2010 09:59:45 PM 780 Views
Ooh, excellent. - 12/02/2010 10:57:41 PM 989 Views
Well, ain't that handy. - 12/02/2010 11:41:32 PM 734 Views
Even better. Cheaper beers than in Brussels, that's for sure. *NM* - 13/02/2010 02:39:03 PM 415 Views
Congratulations *NM* - 12/02/2010 03:47:28 PM 388 Views
YAY! Congratulations! *NM* - 14/02/2010 04:10:45 AM 377 Views

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