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Congratulations *NM* Stephen Send a noteboard - 12/02/2010 03:47:28 PM
It's official. Last Friday I asked Vincent to marry me. The occasion was our 250 weekaversary. This is what happened.

For months, I've known that I would ask him. I've contemplated many surprise city trips, hotel trips, weekend getaways. But on the one hand considering the financial limitations in light of our trip to the US early May, and on the other hand my worries that I might just pick a really shitty place and that'd always be the place where we'd gotten engaged and therefore special... I ended up deciding that since Vincent's favourite place in the world is Amsterdam, we'd stay here.

I'd arranged that Vincent would keep the weekend available and Vijay would stay with my parents. I asked him early in the day, during our after sex cuddling (I figured I'd better ask when he's at his most vulnerable! Muahahaha). He said yes!

From then on, we let the weekend be decided by fate. We'd put different lunch places and restaurants on little pieces of paper, and Vincent would pick one and that's where we'd go!

On Saturday we went to buy rings. Originally we thought that it would take a while to find the right ones, but we found the perfect rings (for us) within half an hour!

The Netherlands doesn't have the huge diamond tradition. We both got brushed silver rings, about 4-5 mm wide, flat surface. Mine has a shiny second ring placed diagonally around it, which is much thinner and round (like a string). As you can hear, they're simple, yet elegant (at least, that's what I think!).

We haven't set a wedding date yet. The idea is that we'll be engaged for some years. I realize it's unusual, but really, we'll need that time to find the perfect cake!
"I mean, if everyone had a soul, there would be no contrast by which we could appreciate it. For giving us this perspective, we thank you." - Nate
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Announcement: Vincent and I are engaged - 11/02/2010 10:38:57 AM 1436 Views
Congratulations!! - 11/02/2010 10:52:32 AM 787 Views
Thank you! - 11/02/2010 11:02:50 AM 738 Views
Re: Thank you! - 11/02/2010 01:07:37 PM 843 Views
Elaborate! - 11/02/2010 01:14:54 PM 771 Views
- 11/02/2010 03:46:05 PM 770 Views
ehehehe, she is so going to kill you. *NM* - 11/02/2010 03:51:27 PM 393 Views
Her silence has me even more worried now... *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:37:23 AM 389 Views
Entirely out of the loop... *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:06:21 AM 397 Views
I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 12/02/2010 09:36:38 AM 770 Views
Re: I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 13/02/2010 07:01:19 AM 770 Views
Congratulations! - 11/02/2010 11:19:45 AM 797 Views
Definitely true - 11/02/2010 11:59:13 AM 741 Views
Congrats to both of you. - 11/02/2010 11:52:53 AM 1013 Views
That's a tall order - 11/02/2010 12:01:30 PM 756 Views
I'm sure you're up to it. - 11/02/2010 12:10:36 PM 804 Views
Thanks for your faith in me - 11/02/2010 12:38:56 PM 783 Views
Welcome; I often have more faith in a person than in people. - 13/02/2010 09:45:48 AM 1278 Views
Oo! - 11/02/2010 12:10:06 PM 867 Views
Pictures of what? The cake? The rings? Us? - 11/02/2010 12:41:12 PM 765 Views
Congratulations. Have a wonderful day. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:15:06 PM 469 Views
That'll be rather a while - years. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:00 PM 386 Views
Very cool. Congrats. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:34:31 PM 441 Views
Thank you! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:10 PM 410 Views
Congrats! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:59:18 PM 407 Views
Yay. Thanks! *NM* - 11/02/2010 01:04:59 PM 456 Views
Congratulations! That's lovely. - 11/02/2010 01:03:05 PM 766 Views
Ack! - 11/02/2010 01:04:00 PM 777 Views
The planning's the fun bit. - 11/02/2010 01:04:54 PM 796 Views
- 11/02/2010 01:11:46 PM 740 Views
Not yet - 11/02/2010 01:15:23 PM 813 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:42:52 PM 672 Views
Thanks, and I'm a little confused - 11/02/2010 01:44:57 PM 758 Views
Yes - 11/02/2010 02:57:40 PM 750 Views
Figures... it's not normal in the Netherlands, though - 11/02/2010 03:37:17 PM 747 Views
Diamonds are gross. - 12/02/2010 03:59:10 PM 734 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:55:36 PM 759 Views
Re: Congrats! - 11/02/2010 02:10:49 PM 722 Views
Awww... - 11/02/2010 03:38:45 PM 734 Views
Awww - 11/02/2010 02:09:41 PM 818 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 02:14:10 PM 796 Views
Congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 02:19:33 PM 418 Views
Congratulations. *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:44:27 PM 400 Views
congrats *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:47:39 PM 536 Views
yaaaay!!! congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 05:10:46 PM 426 Views
*gasp* Chick ain't supposed to ask the dude! - 11/02/2010 06:39:16 PM 821 Views
In gay marriages, does the top always ask the bottom? *NM* - 11/02/2010 07:27:11 PM 426 Views
I'm not sure, actually. More often than not, probably. - 11/02/2010 07:28:58 PM 749 Views
He better ask for my blessing first!!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:05 PM 404 Views
We'll see. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:09:07 PM 377 Views
Im definitely more top in my relationship and I mention all the important stuff first - 11/02/2010 08:05:15 PM 725 Views
Top? Pfffft. Y'all are total lesbians. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:10:01 PM 384 Views
Who would have thought conventional roles was you thing. - 11/02/2010 08:03:57 PM 653 Views
I'm totally on board with role....playing. - 11/02/2010 08:07:54 PM 731 Views
Why not? - 12/02/2010 07:08:03 AM 743 Views
It's....it's....it's just not done! *scandalized horror-stricken look* - 12/02/2010 09:48:17 PM 758 Views
I did it anyway! Muahahahaha. Also, I picked him up. - 13/02/2010 07:02:42 AM 717 Views
Good work! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:02:57 PM 328 Views
Congratulations!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:39 PM 378 Views
Awesome. - 11/02/2010 08:33:59 PM 884 Views
Owwww.. no it's not. SF all the way baby! - 12/02/2010 07:11:19 AM 738 Views
Congratulations, Helene ! - 12/02/2010 01:03:48 AM 923 Views
We're at least already well on our way, so far *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:13:05 AM 389 Views
Did you say,"... doesn't have the huge diamond tradition"? Sounds like I need a Dutch girl! - 12/02/2010 02:49:49 AM 769 Views
Dutch girls are a lot of fun, too *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:12:27 AM 386 Views
And they'll pay for their own dinner when you take them out, too! - 12/02/2010 12:06:15 PM 751 Views
Not all of us are that tall - 12/02/2010 12:28:51 PM 723 Views
How wonderful! Congratulations! - 12/02/2010 03:11:02 PM 738 Views
Thank you so much and of course - 12/02/2010 06:31:42 PM 830 Views
Are you both in Amsterdam now, or will we have to add Leiden to our itinerary? *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:44:01 PM 375 Views
Why isn't Leiden on your itinerary already? - 12/02/2010 09:39:02 PM 704 Views
Where do you live? - 12/02/2010 09:59:45 PM 755 Views
Ooh, excellent. - 12/02/2010 10:57:41 PM 970 Views
Well, ain't that handy. - 12/02/2010 11:41:32 PM 708 Views
Even better. Cheaper beers than in Brussels, that's for sure. *NM* - 13/02/2010 02:39:03 PM 406 Views
Congratulations *NM* - 12/02/2010 03:47:28 PM 378 Views
YAY! Congratulations! *NM* - 14/02/2010 04:10:45 AM 364 Views

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