im pretty sure most of her behavior is youthe and the whole ego of being a two rivers female, she has to learn and is simply tainted by fian as much as just trying to develop, its why shes so ego struck she is literaly dealing with being a moody teenage female that is all, and that is why so many have patience with her and why the wise ones tried to control her away from her self destructive path, oh plus they knew she was going to die if she continued her course, its pretty obvious its why they said such a pity when she refused to join them the last time :/

which raises a interesting question of if they knew Rhuarc would die and what would have been indivcators of the dreams that avianda had in the second path she took and why they ahd issues believing it perhaps since in her dream she saw bale alive etc