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no i meant the opposite Foxhead Send a noteboard - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM

i have an issue with going out of my way to conform to a social norm



Joking aside, working on social skills has little to do with "conforming" and much more to do with making people feel comfortable, including yourself.


my issue is that i sometimes feel like i go out of my way to unnecassarily conform in order to please people i don't really know or care about

which basically mean i'm too nice even when i'm pissed off, just because i'm bothered about how they think about me

if anything i'm overly social, i'd love to be one of those people who can just rip into a rude person, but i'll just nod and say "oh no my fault"
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does seeing someone reading a book you like justify striking up a conversation Foxhead - 10/09/2011 08:21:28 PM 1618 Views
I keep wanting to, but I never do Camilla - 10/09/2011 11:07:07 PM 1340 Views
take the plunge! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:07:45 AM 1527 Views
Only if you fancy them and are using it as an excuse to chat them up. *NM* Tim - 10/09/2011 11:44:07 PM 559 Views
with ulterior motives? Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:10:46 AM 1188 Views
I wouldn't interuppt someone while they are reading. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 03:16:50 AM 1473 Views
that's worse surely! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:13:15 AM 1377 Views
not to me. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 05:59:19 PM 1226 Views
it is pretty easy tell if they would rather just be reading random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:13:30 PM 1271 Views
I guess my thing is I just hate to be interrupted and don't want to do it to someone else LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 04:28:30 PM 1326 Views
you get that immersed even in public area? random thoughts - 12/09/2011 06:52:54 PM 1203 Views
Usually. If it's not a situation where I CAN, I just won't read. LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 07:23:48 PM 1352 Views
Did you not like the other trilogy? Gher - 11/09/2011 03:36:18 AM 1434 Views
erm, not as much Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:19:03 AM 1274 Views
I used to be timid. Now I don't care and will happily interrupt. Ghavrel - 11/09/2011 07:42:35 AM 1350 Views
Yeah, exactly Praziquantel - 11/09/2011 07:53:48 AM 1353 Views
it's the "i will probably never see again" i can't get my head around Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:21:45 AM 1286 Views
I guess that depends on how you go about it random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:16:38 PM 1138 Views
That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM 1319 Views
no i meant the opposite Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM 1207 Views
Answers to questions asked. Palatine - 11/09/2011 03:34:32 PM 1263 Views
i asked because i wondered how many people would welcome it or view it as an intrusion Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:25:32 PM 1292 Views
I love talking to perfect strangers imlad - 15/09/2011 05:34:27 PM 1659 Views
I have just gone up to someone and said "good choice in book" Fox and Ravens - 11/09/2011 04:49:21 PM 1249 Views
did he reply or did you back away...staring and pointing at the book? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:27:45 PM 1340 Views
I can't resist that. I will always say something. Many people have done the same with me Tashmere - 11/09/2011 06:10:36 PM 1448 Views
are a small town girl? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:30:46 PM 1361 Views
How do you even figure out what they're reading? Vivien - 12/09/2011 05:44:30 AM 1357 Views
NYC is wierd *NM* random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:17:35 PM 546 Views
i look at the cover, i very rarely see someone reading a book bent back on itself *NM* Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:31:52 PM 696 Views
I can usually tell what people are reading with a glance. rebelaessedai - 15/09/2011 01:49:06 AM 1543 Views
Thats why I am glad I don't live in NYC imlad - 15/09/2011 05:41:47 PM 1443 Views
NYC really is a concrete 'jungle' Praziquantel - 15/09/2011 09:41:59 PM 1341 Views
Thats just irritating when it happens to me...I never would do that to another human. *NM* Ryan - 12/09/2011 08:54:06 AM 666 Views
Hmm, what about a Cocker Spaniel? *NM* Kotagg - 13/09/2011 02:39:08 AM 594 Views
Re: No. RomaVenkat - 12/09/2011 02:51:40 PM 1334 Views
I stirke up conversation with strangers all the time random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:12:09 PM 1271 Views
exactly! imlad - 15/09/2011 05:46:57 PM 1374 Views
It depends on the situation DomA - 12/09/2011 07:26:02 PM 1248 Views
i love the farseer books too! and yeah a little weird, but not that weird *NM* temeraire - 13/09/2011 10:37:53 PM 514 Views
I think so, but it isn't always appreciated. Vodalus - 15/09/2011 03:20:07 AM 1423 Views
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