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no i meant the opposite Foxhead Send a noteboard - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM

i have an issue with going out of my way to conform to a social norm



Joking aside, working on social skills has little to do with "conforming" and much more to do with making people feel comfortable, including yourself.


my issue is that i sometimes feel like i go out of my way to unnecassarily conform in order to please people i don't really know or care about

which basically mean i'm too nice even when i'm pissed off, just because i'm bothered about how they think about me

if anything i'm overly social, i'd love to be one of those people who can just rip into a rude person, but i'll just nod and say "oh no my fault"
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does seeing someone reading a book you like justify striking up a conversation Foxhead - 10/09/2011 08:21:28 PM 1643 Views
I keep wanting to, but I never do Camilla - 10/09/2011 11:07:07 PM 1364 Views
take the plunge! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:07:45 AM 1558 Views
Only if you fancy them and are using it as an excuse to chat them up. *NM* Tim - 10/09/2011 11:44:07 PM 572 Views
with ulterior motives? Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:10:46 AM 1212 Views
I wouldn't interuppt someone while they are reading. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 03:16:50 AM 1501 Views
that's worse surely! Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:13:15 AM 1402 Views
not to me. LadyLorraine - 11/09/2011 05:59:19 PM 1247 Views
it is pretty easy tell if they would rather just be reading random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:13:30 PM 1297 Views
I guess my thing is I just hate to be interrupted and don't want to do it to someone else LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 04:28:30 PM 1347 Views
you get that immersed even in public area? random thoughts - 12/09/2011 06:52:54 PM 1230 Views
Usually. If it's not a situation where I CAN, I just won't read. LadyLorraine - 12/09/2011 07:23:48 PM 1374 Views
Did you not like the other trilogy? Gher - 11/09/2011 03:36:18 AM 1460 Views
erm, not as much Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:19:03 AM 1299 Views
I used to be timid. Now I don't care and will happily interrupt. Ghavrel - 11/09/2011 07:42:35 AM 1373 Views
Yeah, exactly Praziquantel - 11/09/2011 07:53:48 AM 1372 Views
it's the "i will probably never see again" i can't get my head around Foxhead - 11/09/2011 10:21:45 AM 1312 Views
I guess that depends on how you go about it random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:16:38 PM 1165 Views
That's a nice way of saying "I'm antisociably shy." Ghavrel - 13/09/2011 09:43:17 AM 1344 Views
no i meant the opposite Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:20:48 PM 1241 Views
Answers to questions asked. Palatine - 11/09/2011 03:34:32 PM 1286 Views
i asked because i wondered how many people would welcome it or view it as an intrusion Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:25:32 PM 1320 Views
I love talking to perfect strangers imlad - 15/09/2011 05:34:27 PM 1695 Views
I have just gone up to someone and said "good choice in book" Fox and Ravens - 11/09/2011 04:49:21 PM 1273 Views
did he reply or did you back away...staring and pointing at the book? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:27:45 PM 1363 Views
I can't resist that. I will always say something. Many people have done the same with me Tashmere - 11/09/2011 06:10:36 PM 1472 Views
are a small town girl? Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:30:46 PM 1387 Views
How do you even figure out what they're reading? Vivien - 12/09/2011 05:44:30 AM 1384 Views
NYC is wierd *NM* random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:17:35 PM 559 Views
i look at the cover, i very rarely see someone reading a book bent back on itself *NM* Foxhead - 13/09/2011 02:31:52 PM 708 Views
I can usually tell what people are reading with a glance. rebelaessedai - 15/09/2011 01:49:06 AM 1573 Views
Thats why I am glad I don't live in NYC imlad - 15/09/2011 05:41:47 PM 1467 Views
NYC really is a concrete 'jungle' Praziquantel - 15/09/2011 09:41:59 PM 1365 Views
Thats just irritating when it happens to me...I never would do that to another human. *NM* Ryan - 12/09/2011 08:54:06 AM 683 Views
Hmm, what about a Cocker Spaniel? *NM* Kotagg - 13/09/2011 02:39:08 AM 608 Views
Re: No. RomaVenkat - 12/09/2011 02:51:40 PM 1354 Views
I stirke up conversation with strangers all the time random thoughts - 12/09/2011 03:12:09 PM 1301 Views
exactly! imlad - 15/09/2011 05:46:57 PM 1398 Views
It depends on the situation DomA - 12/09/2011 07:26:02 PM 1277 Views
i love the farseer books too! and yeah a little weird, but not that weird *NM* temeraire - 13/09/2011 10:37:53 PM 530 Views
I think so, but it isn't always appreciated. Vodalus - 15/09/2011 03:20:07 AM 1447 Views
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