Basically the only thing I've been able to decide is that I have "my people" and "not my people." If I can't feel that same sense of ... warmthprotectionhonestytrustwhatever that I have with "my people" for my sig other, then we're not right (regardless of how the physicality ranks). I don't know if I believe in that kind of crazy love that overrides everything else. At least, not for someone whose brain works the way mine does.

And I think (as awful and and clichéd as this is ) that it does often fall into your lap when you're not looking. You can't make these things happen, you can only live and enjoy yourself. Have fun and Trust.