True, the first few experiences have not been exactly amazing, but I have to have faith that there is someone out there who like me for who I am, make me feel amazing, and with whom I can share my love of wacky things that are also zany. If I found guys like that in the past, I must be able to find them again right? And with my lack of a social convention like church, school, or wotmania to help me, I must venture out on my own.
Well, there is RAFO
But true, you found them before, you'll find them again.
(yes, I gave him my Google Voice phone number, not my ACTUAL phone number. Don't judge me.)
*judges* If someone didn't bother to give me her real number before going out, I probably wouldn't think it would be worth my time, if she was so...careful.
He asks the waiter how much a coke is before ordering one. Yeesh.
Wow. Lame! That's almost as bad as the women who only order a tiny salad when you're in a really nice place to eat
We eat. The conversation is awkward, as I am given to understand is common in such occurrences.
Well, in best case it flows really well. But admittedly, it happens.
I catch him staring at my cleavage and button my cardigan. His creepy gaze makes me feel like taking a shower but at least now he has taken off his sunglasses.
That's already the point where I'd yell "No second date", because if you describe your date as creepy and it makes you feel unpleasant, what's the point in going on?
Will a guy have a look at your cleavage during your first date? Yes. Should he constantly do that and make you feel like a piece of meat? Of course not. But should the thought of him checking out your body creep you out? No.
He suggests going to a nearby park. I later find out the park is known for strange men masturbating in public. I assume he, like me, has no knowledge of this.
If you didn't have fun and felt mostly uncomfortable during the first part, why continue the date?
I have been criticized lately by one spurned potential suitor for being too picky.
There is nothing wrong with being picky. You like what you like. If your list of pet peeves is extremely long and you actually start looking for flaws during a date, that's when I'd start calling it too picky.
In just a few moments I decide that I do not like kissing him and eff the guy who made me feel guilty, I am out to have FUN, not to be uncomfortable and I pull away. I employ my trusty jabbering skills and I talk about everything under the sun.
I have no idea where he got the idea that the date went so great up to that point that it would warrant a kiss. Seems to be his act. Totally uncalled for, of course.
Again, I wonder if I am being too harsh. This guy seems... well not psyco, just awkward. That happens, right? People can be both awkward and cool in their own way.
Agreed. But you did not have one nice thing to say about him so far, so why bother?
We decide to go to another park.
Again, why go on? What did you still hope for at this point? It didn't sound like the extremely entertaining and enchanting surprise in his performance was just around the corner.
We walk, we talk. We do not have anything in common. He doesn't like movies.
He doesn't watch T.V.
He thinks conversations about emotions and complaining are boring.
This guy is NOT going to like me.
"Well, I have to get going. Good to see you, though! Bye!"
Seriously though, having things in common is really such a major point in picking a date. If a girl thinks all things Sci-Fi/Fantasy are head-in-the-clouds-pointless-nonsense there is no point for me to go out with her, because our interests are gonna clash very soon and we simply have nothing in common. If she thinks "Step up 3D" was the movie of the year and artists like 50 Cent are relevant, we are not gonna get far. You get my point.
I am not entirely sure but I think he asks when my parents will be home from work. It takes me a moment to figure out what he means. He wants to go someplace with less people.
That guy really got some nerves. It'll do him good not to get a second date this time.
His hand is on my boob. Out in public. Gross. He is stage whispering things at me. I move his hand.
Leave already!!!
I say it makes me uncomfortable and he stops. What in the WORLD happened?!? What am I projecting that invites this kind of weirdness? I know that to grow I REALLY need to be more forceful. These type of shenanigans will not be tolerated at THIS school!!
I am not saying you encouraged him to do such things in any way, but I still have to wonder why you kept the date going. Maybe that's why he thought he'd have a good chance.
Anyway. He wants to meet up again on Monday.
What say you?
Second date or no?
No. Of course not. What could possibly happen that could turn this thing around? You find him creepy and boring. You should find him attractive and interesting.
Next!
Thanks for the really entertaining story, though
*MySmiley*
You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
This message last edited by ironclad on 06/10/2010 at 10:58:35 AM
Confessions of a Serial Dater [Part 1: The Korean]
- 06/10/2010 05:25:28 AM
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As a veteran Move-Too-Faster he was coming on WAY too strong for a first date.
- 06/10/2010 05:48:48 AM
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You should have just gone with it. I feel like you need to get laid. *NM*
- 06/10/2010 05:52:54 AM
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There's people to have sex with when you need to get laid. This guy isn't that people.
- 06/10/2010 08:53:45 AM
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WTF?
- 06/10/2010 08:51:21 AM
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I just can't get over this... I'm shocked and appalled. How low is your self esteem exactly? *NM*
- 06/10/2010 08:54:48 AM
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*NM*
While I agree on the WTF factor...
- 06/10/2010 11:37:55 AM
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You are responsible for how you let someone treat you
- 06/10/2010 01:44:41 PM
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*NM*
A couple of things
- 06/10/2010 09:06:52 AM
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My advice to you:
- 06/10/2010 01:32:34 PM
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I agree and disagree with you
- 06/10/2010 02:11:34 PM
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What sort?
- 06/10/2010 04:11:30 PM
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I would say piranha, but I'm not sure you want to pay that food bill
- 06/10/2010 06:36:29 PM
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While it might be incredibly entertaining for us to get a Part Deux to this story...
- 06/10/2010 02:06:13 PM
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