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Do your job, talk to your manager or HR Kel Send a noteboard - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM
You do your job and when she tries to bully you, you stand your ground and don't go along with it. Only you can let the bully get to you.

If you have specific examples, talk to your manager. If they are unwilling to help, talk to HR. Keep working up the chain until someone is willing to listen, and keep a record of what you are doing. I have a feeling that if your manager isn't willing to help, then HR definitely will. Companies are hyper-sensitive to this kind of stuff. If you file a formal complaint, the company will have to take some kind of action.

My wife had a similar situation, where one of her coworkers (who isn't her supervisor) basically told the rest of the staff "I'm just a bitch and you're all just going to have to deal with that". It's taken a few months, and it hasn't gotten really any better, but at least her manager knows what is going on. The problem is that with the union, they really can't do anything.
Kel (formerly Tristan de Luna)
Si hoc legere scis nimium eruditionis habes.

Politics: A strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. -- Ambrose Bierce

Time is a confidence game invented by the Swiss.
This message last edited by Kel on 16/11/2010 at 01:10:24 PM
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Office Bully - 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM 1359 Views
Rat poison. *NM* - 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM 373 Views
Oh yes. - 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM 777 Views
How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM* - 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM 331 Views
this is what I was thinking. - 16/11/2010 05:49:03 AM 766 Views
i worked with a guy once who was the owner's neighbor - 16/11/2010 06:42:34 AM 841 Views
She is the owner's wife. *NM* - 16/11/2010 04:40:30 PM 335 Views
do you have an HR department? - 16/11/2010 06:40:29 AM 849 Views
Punch her? *NM* - 16/11/2010 06:42:44 AM 393 Views
Do your job, talk to your manager or HR - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM 860 Views
Re: Office Bully - 16/11/2010 04:01:17 PM 839 Views
There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife. - 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM 855 Views
...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM* - 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM 387 Views
I've spoken to her - 16/11/2010 07:45:26 PM 812 Views
ah yah. in that case, you can probably only quit or "deal" *NM* - 16/11/2010 07:48:31 PM 406 Views
you could stop bullying people - 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM 832 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 06:13:25 PM 436 Views
wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM* - 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM 395 Views
which part did you have a problem with? *NM* - 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM 380 Views
Well, that was utterly uncalled for. - 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM 835 Views
oh please - 16/11/2010 10:37:40 PM 965 Views
I don't read every thread on this board. I don't have to. - 16/11/2010 11:04:56 PM 806 Views
I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM* - 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM 382 Views
I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt. - 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM 902 Views
I took that as a good natured tease. - 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM 825 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. - 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM 779 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. - 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM 809 Views
As did I, actually. *NM* - 16/11/2010 11:25:13 PM 363 Views
Sign me up under this one, too. *NM* - 17/11/2010 10:45:00 PM 416 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM 398 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM 388 Views
Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM* - 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM 389 Views
Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing - 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM 773 Views
You are much better at thinking the best of people! - 16/11/2010 11:02:24 PM 758 Views
Some people make it easy. - 16/11/2010 11:05:08 PM 719 Views
I thought he was teasing too. *NM* - 17/11/2010 02:26:35 AM 351 Views
Re: Ditto. - 17/11/2010 02:30:20 AM 809 Views
Dittoditto - 17/11/2010 03:24:39 AM 908 Views
Make sure that you are doing a superb job... - 16/11/2010 11:02:44 PM 817 Views
You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue. - 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM 762 Views
What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM* - 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM 360 Views
She would likely open the door for me. - 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM 791 Views
The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM* - 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM 378 Views
It's not full time - 18/11/2010 06:08:22 PM 793 Views
Definitely time to go then. - 17/11/2010 12:45:35 AM 925 Views
Re: - 17/11/2010 12:12:02 AM 909 Views
We had a bully. - 17/11/2010 03:27:31 AM 853 Views
^this. - 18/11/2010 08:37:22 AM 908 Views
Is the bully the boss? - 17/11/2010 03:28:08 AM 999 Views
How does one combat douchbaggery? - 18/11/2010 05:16:20 PM 753 Views
Alas - 18/11/2010 06:06:38 PM 1099 Views
Cut the nozzle and stop pouring in the vinegar solution. *NM* - 18/11/2010 11:47:34 PM 369 Views

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