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Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM
There is a bully in my office. She doesn't answer to anyone, so she of course gets away with it.

Aside from quitting, is there any recourse?



...and it sounds like you're not.

Most bullies will stop targeting you if it stops being satisfying to them. Refuse to play her game. If it were me, and there were nothing I could do to affect/change her behavior, I'd kill her with kindness. It confuses them and makes you look like a saint :D

Anything she tells you, you just give her a big smile and say something like, "that's a really great suggestion. I never would have even thought of doing it that way. Thank you!" Invite her out to lunch to ask for her ideas about how to do your job better. You can totally play her. Just have fun with it!


If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.

"The trophy problem has become extreme."
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Office Bully Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM 1359 Views
Rat poison. *NM* Tom - 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM 373 Views
Oh yes. Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM 777 Views
In all seriousness, we don't have enough information on exactly what she's saying/doing. Tom - 16/11/2010 11:21:22 PM 803 Views
How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM* Ghavrel - 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM 331 Views
this is what I was thinking. LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 05:49:03 AM 767 Views
i worked with a guy once who was the owner's neighbor moondog - 16/11/2010 06:42:34 AM 842 Views
She is the owner's wife. *NM* Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:40:30 PM 336 Views
do you have an HR department? moondog - 16/11/2010 06:40:29 AM 849 Views
Punch her? *NM* Kronin al'Sulc - 16/11/2010 06:42:44 AM 394 Views
Do your job, talk to your manager or HR Kel - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM 860 Views
Re: Office Bully skippy - 16/11/2010 04:01:17 PM 839 Views
Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management Sareitha Sedai - 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM 792 Views
There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife. Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM 855 Views
...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM* LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM 387 Views
I've spoken to her Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 07:45:26 PM 812 Views
ah yah. in that case, you can probably only quit or "deal" *NM* LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 07:48:31 PM 407 Views
you could stop bullying people random thoughts - 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM 832 Views
*NM* Birdeye - 16/11/2010 06:13:25 PM 436 Views
wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM* Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM 395 Views
which part did you have a problem with? *NM* random thoughts - 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM 380 Views
Well, that was utterly uncalled for. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM 835 Views
oh please random thoughts - 16/11/2010 10:37:40 PM 965 Views
I don't read every thread on this board. I don't have to. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:04:56 PM 806 Views
I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM* Tashmere - 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM 382 Views
I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM 902 Views
I took that as a good natured tease. Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM 825 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM 779 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. Tashmere - 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM 809 Views
As did I, actually. *NM* Ghavrel - 16/11/2010 11:25:13 PM 363 Views
Sign me up under this one, too. *NM* Mats Gambling Buddy - 17/11/2010 10:45:00 PM 416 Views
*NM* Beqi - 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM 398 Views
*NM* random thoughts - 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM 388 Views
Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM* Beqi - 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM 389 Views
Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing Tashmere - 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM 774 Views
You are much better at thinking the best of people! Beqi - 16/11/2010 11:02:24 PM 758 Views
Some people make it easy. Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:05:08 PM 719 Views
I thought he was teasing too. *NM* Avendesora - 17/11/2010 02:26:35 AM 351 Views
Re: Ditto. Gaps - 17/11/2010 02:30:20 AM 809 Views
Dittoditto nossy - 17/11/2010 03:24:39 AM 908 Views
Make sure that you are doing a superb job... Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:02:44 PM 817 Views
You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue. Beqi - 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM 762 Views
What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM* Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM 360 Views
She would likely open the door for me. Amyrlin - 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM 792 Views
The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM* Legolas - 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM 378 Views
It's not full time Amyrlin - 18/11/2010 06:08:22 PM 794 Views
Definitely time to go then. Tashmere - 17/11/2010 12:45:35 AM 925 Views
Re: Gaps - 17/11/2010 12:12:02 AM 909 Views
We had a bully. nossy - 17/11/2010 03:27:31 AM 854 Views
^this. moondog - 18/11/2010 08:37:22 AM 908 Views
Is the bully the boss? MightyYT - 17/11/2010 03:28:08 AM 999 Views
You don't give enough information for us to be able to give you constructive advice *NM* Helene - 18/11/2010 11:30:16 AM 324 Views
How does one combat douchbaggery? Mats Gambling Buddy - 18/11/2010 05:16:20 PM 753 Views
Alas Amyrlin - 18/11/2010 06:06:38 PM 1099 Views
Cut the nozzle and stop pouring in the vinegar solution. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 18/11/2010 11:47:34 PM 369 Views
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