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Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM
There is a bully in my office. She doesn't answer to anyone, so she of course gets away with it.

Aside from quitting, is there any recourse?



...and it sounds like you're not.

Most bullies will stop targeting you if it stops being satisfying to them. Refuse to play her game. If it were me, and there were nothing I could do to affect/change her behavior, I'd kill her with kindness. It confuses them and makes you look like a saint :D

Anything she tells you, you just give her a big smile and say something like, "that's a really great suggestion. I never would have even thought of doing it that way. Thank you!" Invite her out to lunch to ask for her ideas about how to do your job better. You can totally play her. Just have fun with it!


If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.

"The trophy problem has become extreme."
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Office Bully Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM 1270 Views
Rat poison. *NM* Tom - 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM 338 Views
Oh yes. Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM 696 Views
In all seriousness, we don't have enough information on exactly what she's saying/doing. Tom - 16/11/2010 11:21:22 PM 728 Views
How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM* Ghavrel - 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM 300 Views
this is what I was thinking. LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 05:49:03 AM 696 Views
i worked with a guy once who was the owner's neighbor moondog - 16/11/2010 06:42:34 AM 765 Views
She is the owner's wife. *NM* Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:40:30 PM 311 Views
do you have an HR department? moondog - 16/11/2010 06:40:29 AM 773 Views
Punch her? *NM* Kronin al'Sulc - 16/11/2010 06:42:44 AM 360 Views
Do your job, talk to your manager or HR Kel - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM 775 Views
Re: Office Bully skippy - 16/11/2010 04:01:17 PM 751 Views
Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management Sareitha Sedai - 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM 720 Views
There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife. Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM 776 Views
...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM* LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM 351 Views
I've spoken to her Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 07:45:26 PM 720 Views
ah yah. in that case, you can probably only quit or "deal" *NM* LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 07:48:31 PM 373 Views
you could stop bullying people random thoughts - 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM 752 Views
*NM* Birdeye - 16/11/2010 06:13:25 PM 396 Views
wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM* Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM 358 Views
which part did you have a problem with? *NM* random thoughts - 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM 346 Views
Well, that was utterly uncalled for. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM 757 Views
oh please random thoughts - 16/11/2010 10:37:40 PM 892 Views
I don't read every thread on this board. I don't have to. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:04:56 PM 719 Views
I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM* Tashmere - 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM 340 Views
I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM 816 Views
I took that as a good natured tease. Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM 742 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM 698 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. Tashmere - 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM 746 Views
As did I, actually. *NM* Ghavrel - 16/11/2010 11:25:13 PM 332 Views
Sign me up under this one, too. *NM* Mats Gambling Buddy - 17/11/2010 10:45:00 PM 384 Views
*NM* Beqi - 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM 359 Views
*NM* random thoughts - 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM 349 Views
Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM* Beqi - 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM 351 Views
Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing Tashmere - 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM 690 Views
You are much better at thinking the best of people! Beqi - 16/11/2010 11:02:24 PM 677 Views
Some people make it easy. Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:05:08 PM 635 Views
I thought he was teasing too. *NM* Avendesora - 17/11/2010 02:26:35 AM 318 Views
Re: Ditto. Gaps - 17/11/2010 02:30:20 AM 744 Views
Dittoditto nossy - 17/11/2010 03:24:39 AM 824 Views
Make sure that you are doing a superb job... Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:02:44 PM 731 Views
You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue. Beqi - 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM 697 Views
What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM* Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM 334 Views
She would likely open the door for me. Amyrlin - 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM 711 Views
The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM* Legolas - 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM 345 Views
It's not full time Amyrlin - 18/11/2010 06:08:22 PM 712 Views
Definitely time to go then. Tashmere - 17/11/2010 12:45:35 AM 852 Views
Re: Gaps - 17/11/2010 12:12:02 AM 830 Views
We had a bully. nossy - 17/11/2010 03:27:31 AM 771 Views
^this. moondog - 18/11/2010 08:37:22 AM 824 Views
Is the bully the boss? MightyYT - 17/11/2010 03:28:08 AM 921 Views
You don't give enough information for us to be able to give you constructive advice *NM* Helene - 18/11/2010 11:30:16 AM 298 Views
How does one combat douchbaggery? Mats Gambling Buddy - 18/11/2010 05:16:20 PM 674 Views
Alas Amyrlin - 18/11/2010 06:06:38 PM 1019 Views
Cut the nozzle and stop pouring in the vinegar solution. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 18/11/2010 11:47:34 PM 339 Views
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