My Mom works for student housing at University of North Carolina - Charlotte, and tells me about many of the parents she has to deal with. I guess there is a term "Helicopter Parents", because they have to hover over their children, making sure that they are protected in every way.
She told me about how one student got stressed out and set fire to his dorm room, and when the parents found out, they immediately hired a lawyer to represent their kid (to protect his future). The college was expecting to hold the student financially responsible for his actions, but his parents immediately "lawyered-up".
She says that she frequently gets call from parents, constantly defending their children when they break something or do something wrong. It's never the kid's fault, is the common theme.
I have to wonder.. what happens to these kids when they are cast out into the world, have to get a job and figure things out on their own. Are their parents going to call their boss and complain because their kid is being overworked and underpaid?
She told me about how one student got stressed out and set fire to his dorm room, and when the parents found out, they immediately hired a lawyer to represent their kid (to protect his future). The college was expecting to hold the student financially responsible for his actions, but his parents immediately "lawyered-up".
She says that she frequently gets call from parents, constantly defending their children when they break something or do something wrong. It's never the kid's fault, is the common theme.
I have to wonder.. what happens to these kids when they are cast out into the world, have to get a job and figure things out on their own. Are their parents going to call their boss and complain because their kid is being overworked and underpaid?
The tendency is to be so unable to deal with real world stressors that they either curl up in a ball and wait to die, or anti-socially lash out at a world in which they have no idea how to function. Parents who structure a childs world so that it never has to do anything ensure they'll never be ABLE to do anything on their own.
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Child Psychology: Are Todays Parents Mental?
- 06/01/2011 11:21:53 PM
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Very interesting article, thanks for posting.
- 07/01/2011 01:36:51 AM
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Welcome, and I'll pass that along to the person through whom I learned of it.
- 07/01/2011 02:19:07 AM
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- 07/01/2011 02:19:07 AM
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I just began thinking about how my parents raised me as I was reading this.
- 07/01/2011 02:24:33 AM
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The middle way seems best; 'grats to you and your folks.
- 07/01/2011 06:35:50 PM
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Thanks Joel. And I agree with you that most of the time, the middle way is best.
- 07/01/2011 06:52:10 PM
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Not surprising.
- 07/01/2011 01:52:57 PM
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Yeah, Macharius pretty well covered it.
- 07/01/2011 06:34:13 PM
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- 07/01/2011 06:34:13 PM
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meh
- 07/01/2011 02:34:47 PM
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I disagree; even to the extent that's the real problem it's still down to indulgent parents.
- 07/01/2011 04:52:26 PM
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exterem paretnal involment is being overstated
- 08/01/2011 03:10:09 AM
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It's extreme indulgence, not involvement.
- 08/01/2011 03:44:43 AM
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extreme indulgence is a problem but with one exception those were not good examples
- 08/01/2011 04:47:05 PM
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"Kids need to feel badly sometimes"? What should we do? Dip their fingers in acid?
- 07/01/2011 03:00:17 PM
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It would work, and definitely put an end to all this touchy-feeliness.
- 07/01/2011 04:47:16 PM
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- 07/01/2011 04:47:16 PM
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I would classify editing the N-word out of Huckleberry Finn to apply to this issue...
- 07/01/2011 11:26:05 PM
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"Undiplomatic" is one thing, "inflammatory" quite another.
- 07/01/2011 11:51:03 PM
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Re: "Undiplomatic" is one thing, "inflammatory" quite another.
- 09/01/2011 12:20:47 AM
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If the stakes are small or there's no alternative I don't mind going with your gut.
- 09/01/2011 01:20:42 AM
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Re: If the stakes are small or there's no alternative I don't mind going with your gut.
- 09/01/2011 01:28:28 AM
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Sadly so.
- 09/01/2011 01:32:23 AM
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Re: Sadly so.
- 09/01/2011 01:41:39 AM
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Hadn't seen that, no.
- 09/01/2011 11:21:20 PM
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Re: Hadn't seen that, no.
- 10/01/2011 04:59:53 PM
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Does M$ have U2 and Steves permission to use their names in that patent application?
- 10/01/2011 07:46:54 PM
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- 10/01/2011 07:46:54 PM
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Re: Does M$ have U2 and Steves permission to use their names in that patent application?
- 10/01/2011 09:54:50 PM
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- 10/01/2011 09:54:50 PM
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well your reply shows us what we end up with if we have over indulgent parnets
- 10/01/2011 04:08:38 PM
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It's a good article, but contains a bit of oversimplification.
- 11/01/2011 09:36:35 PM
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Actually, I tend to agree, 'cos I somewhat agree with rt it diagnoses symptoms better than problems
- 11/01/2011 11:53:48 PM
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