That last part struck me even as I read it, but the spectacle of overinvolved parents interfering on their childrens behalf but to their long term detriment is not new, just more common. Colleges aren't school districts, so there aren't nearly as many parents capable of that level of interference, but that only means the erstwhile terror of the PTA is generally unable to bully university presidents, not unwilling. It's anecdotal, but the article references an example of just how pernicious that can be when the will is accompanied by the ability.
I think these tend to be known as "helicopter parents."
*nods* I can see that, too, and there were parts of that I felt did and didn't apply to me, but if any of it is true the salient point that failure must be owned to be overcome certainly is.
Interesting way of phrasing it. "Owning" this kind of failure can take a lot of different forms, I think.
"Children need a balance between comfort and toughness" is the real impact the article had on me, despite the fact I don't think that was the authors intent. The Joan Crawford School of Parenting has well documented flaws, but the Purple Dinosaur School has flaws just as fatal if less immediately obvious. Life is neither constant sunshine nor rain, and everyone should learn and deal with that sooner rather than later.
Well said.
Seems like a rather bad person to be in charge of their suicide prevention program then; isn't listening rather than lecturing to patients kind of Psychology 101? Sorry he was so useless to you.
'sokay. I now have a fantastic therapist, the first one I've ever managed to see for more than three months at a time, and it's been very helpful to me.
Good to hear from you again though; I'm in and out of FB so little that it's been too long. How's Seattle, the boyfriend, the pippy (a pippy is puppy named "Pippin", you see
) and, of course, you? Not missing lake effect snow, I bet. You and April manage a visit yet?
I saw April once or twice in the summertime - need to get in contact with her again, especially since my fiance and I are now devoted Magic players (ah, the shame). And, um, we're also just that: engaged.
And we bought a house yesterday. Life moves quickly out here!How about you? Where are you located now? (Can move this to notes if you'd like.
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Child Psychology: Are Todays Parents Mental?
- 06/01/2011 11:21:53 PM
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Very interesting article, thanks for posting.
- 07/01/2011 01:36:51 AM
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Welcome, and I'll pass that along to the person through whom I learned of it.
- 07/01/2011 02:19:07 AM
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- 07/01/2011 02:19:07 AM
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I just began thinking about how my parents raised me as I was reading this.
- 07/01/2011 02:24:33 AM
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The middle way seems best; 'grats to you and your folks.
- 07/01/2011 06:35:50 PM
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Thanks Joel. And I agree with you that most of the time, the middle way is best.
- 07/01/2011 06:52:10 PM
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meh
- 07/01/2011 02:34:47 PM
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I disagree; even to the extent that's the real problem it's still down to indulgent parents.
- 07/01/2011 04:52:26 PM
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exterem paretnal involment is being overstated
- 08/01/2011 03:10:09 AM
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It's extreme indulgence, not involvement.
- 08/01/2011 03:44:43 AM
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extreme indulgence is a problem but with one exception those were not good examples
- 08/01/2011 04:47:05 PM
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"Kids need to feel badly sometimes"? What should we do? Dip their fingers in acid?
- 07/01/2011 03:00:17 PM
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It would work, and definitely put an end to all this touchy-feeliness.
- 07/01/2011 04:47:16 PM
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- 07/01/2011 04:47:16 PM
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I would classify editing the N-word out of Huckleberry Finn to apply to this issue...
- 07/01/2011 11:26:05 PM
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"Undiplomatic" is one thing, "inflammatory" quite another.
- 07/01/2011 11:51:03 PM
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Re: "Undiplomatic" is one thing, "inflammatory" quite another.
- 09/01/2011 12:20:47 AM
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If the stakes are small or there's no alternative I don't mind going with your gut.
- 09/01/2011 01:20:42 AM
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Re: If the stakes are small or there's no alternative I don't mind going with your gut.
- 09/01/2011 01:28:28 AM
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Sadly so.
- 09/01/2011 01:32:23 AM
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Re: Sadly so.
- 09/01/2011 01:41:39 AM
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Hadn't seen that, no.
- 09/01/2011 11:21:20 PM
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Re: Hadn't seen that, no.
- 10/01/2011 04:59:53 PM
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Does M$ have U2 and Steves permission to use their names in that patent application?
- 10/01/2011 07:46:54 PM
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- 10/01/2011 07:46:54 PM
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Re: Does M$ have U2 and Steves permission to use their names in that patent application?
- 10/01/2011 09:54:50 PM
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- 10/01/2011 09:54:50 PM
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well your reply shows us what we end up with if we have over indulgent parnets
- 10/01/2011 04:08:38 PM
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It's a good article, but contains a bit of oversimplification.
- 11/01/2011 09:36:35 PM
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Actually, I tend to agree, 'cos I somewhat agree with rt it diagnoses symptoms better than problems
- 11/01/2011 11:53:48 PM
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Re: Actually, I tend to agree
- 15/01/2011 08:04:58 PM
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