It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable.
Helene Send a noteboard - 18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM
E.g. your post about reading books in 4 different languages, and then asking others who if they know which books they are and if they'll read them too, or would be interested in reading them...
Hardly anyone here speaks that many languages. Yes, there are people who do, but most people don't. This alienates people, as hardly anyone likes it when they are clearly being excluded. So they dislike you, or at least aren't attracted to you as someone they would become friends with.
You make it a habit to post things that excludes the majority of people. This means that either you are posting in the wrong place (e.g. post these things where the majority speaks 4 languages), or you are posting the wrong things.
What is it that you want from here? If you want friends, then you would be better served in paying attention to what qualities in you would make you attractive as a friend. If you want people's admiration, then you'd be better served if you showed you were knowledgeable/wise without showing off quite so much.
Hardly anyone here speaks that many languages. Yes, there are people who do, but most people don't. This alienates people, as hardly anyone likes it when they are clearly being excluded. So they dislike you, or at least aren't attracted to you as someone they would become friends with.
You make it a habit to post things that excludes the majority of people. This means that either you are posting in the wrong place (e.g. post these things where the majority speaks 4 languages), or you are posting the wrong things.
What is it that you want from here? If you want friends, then you would be better served in paying attention to what qualities in you would make you attractive as a friend. If you want people's admiration, then you'd be better served if you showed you were knowledgeable/wise without showing off quite so much.
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It doesn't help that you don't tend to post things that make you likeable.
- 18/03/2011 06:55:04 AM
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I always took those posts as attempts to include people.
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That's a very positive outlook, which perhaps is shared by others *NM*
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