I am a snob, aren't I?
I'm with Camilla on this one - you aren't a snob just because you have some standards.
1. Have you ever dated someone who doesn't read?
This is such an interesting question to me because my impulse is to say, "No, I would never do that!" - and then I realized that I am engaged to a man who, for much of his life, read very little. He is the only person I've dated like that (and it's no longer the case; see below).
2. Is reading important enough to you that you wouldn't date someone because they didn't read?
It's always important to look at the entire person. When considering a stranger, we have to go off of clues, and my impulse would be to think that a person who doesn't read is a person who is not interested in learning or challenging his assumptions, and maybe is not even in touch with his emotions. If nothing else it would be one less thing to share and enjoy together. I would say no, too.
However - my fiance. He loves stories. He was an avid video game player when he was younger, mostly for the stories. He also wrote things and watched movies and, sometimes, tried to read. But it was always so much of a struggle for him that he didn't really get much enjoyment from the book medium. He is dyslexic. He will never be able to just glance at a sentence and get the meaning, the way an avid reader usually can. It is work for him.
But he is a very (very) smart person who excels at logical thinking, and when we started dating, I already knew that he had a natural curiosity about things. He likes to learn. Those are the most important reader-y traits for me.
What's interesting is that since we have been together, he's become a reader. Slowly but surely, he's worked his way through more nonfiction books in the last year than he probably had for ten before that. Then we talk about them, and I suggest another book for him to read, or I pick up the one he just finished. It's wondrous.
I don't know if he started doing this for me - he has said it was something he'd wanted to work on for a long time - but it really is great for our relationship, and it means even more to me because I know that it's not easy.
3. Do you think music is fundamental enough to your life that it would factor into who you dated?
Well, if the other person absolutely cannot stand music of any kind, they'd be out. Likewise if they will mock and degrade my choices. But I'm fine with having different tastes.
It is really, really fun to go to the symphony or to an opera as a date, though.
4. Have you been on any dates lately?
No, now that you mention it. Fiance has been very busy with work, but maybe it'd be good for us. Thanks for the idea.
5. Where would you suggest a book lover find... a lover?
I like Camilla's ideas. What part of the country do you live in, roughly? In some places coffeehouses are a good bet.
This message last edited by Clover on 19/04/2011 at 07:06:15 PM
I am a book snob.
19/04/2011 05:16:18 AM
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I am not sure that makes you a book snob
19/04/2011 08:17:11 AM
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Woohoo!
19/04/2011 06:28:57 PM
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I am a movie snob
19/04/2011 08:32:50 AM
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Being picky about books is very different from insisting that there be some books.
19/04/2011 08:52:24 AM
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Re: Being picky about books is very different from insisting that there be some books.
19/04/2011 06:42:18 PM
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I'm a snob snob and I'm looking down my nose at you right now for misusing the word "snob"
19/04/2011 10:46:57 AM
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don't worry, it's a gooooood thing you replied the way you did...
19/04/2011 05:14:48 PM
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Your reply is so nice! But to the point, as well.
19/04/2011 06:50:46 PM
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Well
19/04/2011 08:17:38 PM
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That's a pretty big leap
19/04/2011 09:32:17 PM
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That's a pretty big leap
19/04/2011 09:42:57 PM
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Re: That's a pretty big leap
19/04/2011 10:32:50 PM
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Re: That's a pretty big leap
19/04/2011 10:42:46 PM
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you couldn't date some who listens to country?
19/04/2011 09:37:47 PM
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Probably not.
19/04/2011 09:45:16 PM
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Re: I am a nook slob
20/04/2011 12:45:30 AM
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Re: See, how do you respond to this message:
20/04/2011 02:29:01 AM
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I thought you handled it rather well. Looking for someone compatible does not make you a snob.
20/04/2011 01:21:06 AM
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Yeah... I wish I could too.
23/04/2011 05:47:00 AM
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You're too nice. *NM*
21/04/2011 02:23:11 AM
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It's not *NM*! I answered the whole survey! *NM*
21/04/2011 02:53:15 AM
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You made me LOL and then I had a coughing fit *NM*
22/04/2011 04:30:43 AM
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My apologies and you are welcome! -choose whichever applies best. *NM*
22/04/2011 04:38:30 AM
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