I watched one of my best friends in the world go through this with her husband, and it nearly ruined their otherwise (ridiculously, annoyingly good) relationship. Same exact scenario as above, with him eventually saying that they needed to get rid of it, and her dragging her feet because she cared for the cat and, I would presume, women form those attachments a little easier, whether because of the strong maternal instinct or just a more general sense of empathy. Regardless, if retraining the cat doesn't work, your best bet is to get rid of it, grieve for both the cat and your less innocent conscience, and move on. Animals are wonderful, and we have a responsibility to them if we choose to obtain them, but that responsibility - like all responsibility - is not necessarily infinite. It sounds as though you're attempting to do the responsible thing, which is commendable, but if keeping the cat continues to impact you negatively, ruin the things you've accumulated and care for, and perhaps creates an unsanitary living space, you'll need to get rid of it, and then get over it.
I cannot even copy his manner because the manner of his prose was the manner of his thinking and that was a dazzling succession of gaps; and you cannot ape a gap because you are bound to fill it in somehow or other -- and blot it out in the process. -- Nabokov
I need more cat advice
27/05/2011 07:56:18 PM
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You could try re-training him
27/05/2011 08:03:30 PM
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I'd be willing to try that
27/05/2011 08:06:30 PM
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You can even try craigslist for a dog crate.
27/05/2011 08:08:11 PM
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My friend kept one of her cats in a big dog crate when she had a broken hip and needed to rest.
27/05/2011 08:25:55 PM
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Re: I'd be willing to try that
27/05/2011 08:10:58 PM
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I'll stop at Petco on the way home from work today and see what they have
28/05/2011 07:39:45 PM
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Re: I'm going to sound heartless, but:
27/05/2011 08:26:25 PM
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Cats are like walking furniture. Throw it out and get a new one. *NM*
27/05/2011 09:18:31 PM
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It's sad, but once they start peeing outside the box, it's almost always the end. *NM*
27/05/2011 10:11:27 PM
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Oh, gee I'm going through exactly the same thing!
28/05/2011 01:52:07 AM
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I agree with Sareitha, retraining is the thing. And that means either being on top of the cat the
28/05/2011 06:43:44 AM
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have you tried spraying feliway on the rest of the house? there's a cat litter called cat attract
29/05/2011 01:29:41 AM
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