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Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM
Well, just because something is more likely to happen doesn't mean that it is very likely to happen. Car accidents are highly likely, yes, but fatal car accidents not so much. And fatal car accidents in which the driver was not at fault are quite rare, really.

The only way I see myself driving is by not thinking about the consequences. I guess what I'm saying is: why isn't *everyone* scared of driving? Do they just think that nothing bad will happen to them, they're invincible?

I think people largely tend to be less afraid when they are in control of the situation. I don't like airplanes because I'm not the one flying them, even though I know that the pilot has way more experience than I would. I'm okay with cars; I trust myself to drive well.

So... to a certain extent, yes. I don't think people consider themselves invincible, but I think they have a degree of confidence in their capabilities. I've been in two rather dangerous situations (one of which was really entirely my fault), and I managed through a combination of skill and luck to get out of them fine. That was something of a confidence booster, ironically.

Your anxiety: how did leaving the house hours earlier help? Maybe you left at a time where there'd be less cars on the road?

No, it helped because I actually have an anxiety disorder, so when I left the house hours earlier, I didn't give myself the time to mentally catastrophize ("What if I get into a car crash?" "What if I drive into a ditch?" and turn myself into a wreck. Pun not intended.

"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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NSSP: Driving - 13/12/2011 05:15:41 PM 1535 Views
I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 05:20:14 PM 1057 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 09:58:55 PM 975 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM 962 Views
Your first instinct was right, trust your instincts. *NM* - 14/12/2011 03:16:51 AM 424 Views
I failed my first test. - 13/12/2011 05:49:58 PM 1166 Views
I would love to drive on empty country roads. - 13/12/2011 10:08:35 PM 948 Views
I had to take the driving test 3 time before I passed (posted at the wrong place ) - 13/12/2011 11:43:44 PM 1085 Views
Congratulations on passing it! - 14/12/2011 12:18:18 AM 960 Views
13 yrs old. - 13/12/2011 06:02:22 PM 1172 Views
I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:28:26 PM 1165 Views
Re: I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 10:29:20 PM 1056 Views
It must be harder to overcome that natural fear in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:44:28 PM 1017 Views
Yeah, absolutely. - 13/12/2011 10:32:25 PM 1136 Views
Or drive your drunk sister home from a party. *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:27:01 PM 507 Views
Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 07:01:02 PM 1020 Views
Re: Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 10:43:09 PM 842 Views
Isn't it traditional to fail your first test? Or is that just around here? - 13/12/2011 08:14:01 PM 1012 Views
I wouldn't think so - 13/12/2011 08:25:36 PM 904 Views
I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 08:31:30 PM 967 Views
Re: I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 10:56:38 PM 935 Views
I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:11:13 PM 909 Views
Re: I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:34:30 PM 1086 Views
When I was in New Jersey... - 13/12/2011 11:30:59 PM 1006 Views
Maybe they're the ones who couldn't hack driving in NYC? *NM* - 14/12/2011 12:21:09 AM 539 Views
I was even rather nervous about taking lessons and failed my first - 14/12/2011 08:30:25 AM 1116 Views
I love driving. - 14/12/2011 03:24:59 PM 1045 Views
Re: I love driving. - 14/12/2011 05:44:57 PM 882 Views
- 14/12/2011 06:02:42 PM 1176 Views
I thought it quite clever, actually. - 14/12/2011 06:54:27 PM 864 Views
Me, too. - 18/12/2011 04:31:29 AM 950 Views
Drive safely! - 18/12/2011 04:58:01 AM 1028 Views
Re: Me, three. - 18/12/2011 07:37:55 PM 1019 Views
Re: Me, three. - 19/12/2011 06:10:20 AM 904 Views
Welcome home. *NM* - 19/12/2011 04:41:26 PM 443 Views
Did you ever attend a driving school? *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:29:33 PM 441 Views
I don't think so. - 15/12/2011 05:22:09 AM 1058 Views
Oh. - 15/12/2011 08:32:59 AM 1119 Views
Yes, you did. - 15/12/2011 04:44:48 PM 961 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 12:25:30 AM 961 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 04:42:40 PM 1163 Views
That's not a sign. - 14/12/2011 05:29:36 PM 1022 Views
I take exception to this. - 14/12/2011 06:29:40 PM 975 Views
Whoa. - 15/12/2011 07:21:52 AM 1048 Views
Fewer cars on the road. Fewer double-parked cars. *NM* - 15/12/2011 06:25:21 PM 392 Views
Also: you have no fear. *NM* - 15/12/2011 11:59:34 PM 506 Views
LOL! You guys are funny. - 17/12/2011 06:52:22 AM 1035 Views
Also, you can tell when there's someone around the corner, because of the headlights. - 19/12/2011 04:18:26 PM 1003 Views
Oooh, that's a good point. - 19/12/2011 05:17:16 PM 1126 Views
For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 06:43:38 PM 839 Views
Re: For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 07:05:20 PM 908 Views
It's really not that bad - 16/12/2011 01:03:43 AM 1016 Views
Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 05:50:16 PM 1033 Views
That last part: just a joke. - 17/12/2011 06:06:43 PM 1076 Views
Re: Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 06:07:51 PM 1070 Views
No. But it is true that my risk aversion coefficient is too high. - 17/12/2011 06:49:33 PM 871 Views
Isn't learning to drive in NYC sort of like - 18/12/2011 04:21:47 AM 986 Views
Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:19:53 AM 901 Views
Re: Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:51:51 AM 849 Views
No problem. - 19/12/2011 06:36:59 AM 1296 Views
Don't worry about it it. I'm sure you'll get over it eventually. - 18/12/2011 09:58:59 AM 997 Views

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