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Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM
Well, just because something is more likely to happen doesn't mean that it is very likely to happen. Car accidents are highly likely, yes, but fatal car accidents not so much. And fatal car accidents in which the driver was not at fault are quite rare, really.

The only way I see myself driving is by not thinking about the consequences. I guess what I'm saying is: why isn't *everyone* scared of driving? Do they just think that nothing bad will happen to them, they're invincible?

I think people largely tend to be less afraid when they are in control of the situation. I don't like airplanes because I'm not the one flying them, even though I know that the pilot has way more experience than I would. I'm okay with cars; I trust myself to drive well.

So... to a certain extent, yes. I don't think people consider themselves invincible, but I think they have a degree of confidence in their capabilities. I've been in two rather dangerous situations (one of which was really entirely my fault), and I managed through a combination of skill and luck to get out of them fine. That was something of a confidence booster, ironically.

Your anxiety: how did leaving the house hours earlier help? Maybe you left at a time where there'd be less cars on the road?

No, it helped because I actually have an anxiety disorder, so when I left the house hours earlier, I didn't give myself the time to mentally catastrophize ("What if I get into a car crash?" "What if I drive into a ditch?" and turn myself into a wreck. Pun not intended.

"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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NSSP: Driving - 13/12/2011 05:15:41 PM 1514 Views
I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 05:20:14 PM 1029 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 09:58:55 PM 960 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM 948 Views
Your first instinct was right, trust your instincts. *NM* - 14/12/2011 03:16:51 AM 419 Views
I failed my first test. - 13/12/2011 05:49:58 PM 1149 Views
I would love to drive on empty country roads. - 13/12/2011 10:08:35 PM 929 Views
I had to take the driving test 3 time before I passed (posted at the wrong place ) - 13/12/2011 11:43:44 PM 1017 Views
Congratulations on passing it! - 14/12/2011 12:18:18 AM 947 Views
13 yrs old. - 13/12/2011 06:02:22 PM 1157 Views
I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:28:26 PM 1152 Views
Re: I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 10:29:20 PM 1042 Views
It must be harder to overcome that natural fear in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:44:28 PM 984 Views
Yeah, absolutely. - 13/12/2011 10:32:25 PM 1123 Views
Or drive your drunk sister home from a party. *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:27:01 PM 500 Views
Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 07:01:02 PM 1002 Views
Re: Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 10:43:09 PM 825 Views
Isn't it traditional to fail your first test? Or is that just around here? - 13/12/2011 08:14:01 PM 998 Views
I wouldn't think so - 13/12/2011 08:25:36 PM 880 Views
I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 08:31:30 PM 953 Views
Re: I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 10:56:38 PM 915 Views
I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:11:13 PM 895 Views
Re: I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:34:30 PM 1072 Views
When I was in New Jersey... - 13/12/2011 11:30:59 PM 991 Views
Maybe they're the ones who couldn't hack driving in NYC? *NM* - 14/12/2011 12:21:09 AM 533 Views
I was even rather nervous about taking lessons and failed my first - 14/12/2011 08:30:25 AM 1100 Views
I love driving. - 14/12/2011 03:24:59 PM 1031 Views
Re: I love driving. - 14/12/2011 05:44:57 PM 864 Views
- 14/12/2011 06:02:42 PM 1157 Views
I thought it quite clever, actually. - 14/12/2011 06:54:27 PM 848 Views
Me, too. - 18/12/2011 04:31:29 AM 933 Views
Drive safely! - 18/12/2011 04:58:01 AM 1013 Views
Re: Me, three. - 18/12/2011 07:37:55 PM 1007 Views
Re: Me, three. - 19/12/2011 06:10:20 AM 885 Views
Welcome home. *NM* - 19/12/2011 04:41:26 PM 438 Views
Did you ever attend a driving school? *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:29:33 PM 433 Views
I don't think so. - 15/12/2011 05:22:09 AM 1043 Views
Oh. - 15/12/2011 08:32:59 AM 1101 Views
Yes, you did. - 15/12/2011 04:44:48 PM 947 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 12:25:30 AM 945 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 04:42:40 PM 1149 Views
That's not a sign. - 14/12/2011 05:29:36 PM 1004 Views
I take exception to this. - 14/12/2011 06:29:40 PM 959 Views
Whoa. - 15/12/2011 07:21:52 AM 1032 Views
Fewer cars on the road. Fewer double-parked cars. *NM* - 15/12/2011 06:25:21 PM 387 Views
Also: you have no fear. *NM* - 15/12/2011 11:59:34 PM 499 Views
LOL! You guys are funny. - 17/12/2011 06:52:22 AM 1020 Views
Also, you can tell when there's someone around the corner, because of the headlights. - 19/12/2011 04:18:26 PM 988 Views
Oooh, that's a good point. - 19/12/2011 05:17:16 PM 1109 Views
For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 06:43:38 PM 825 Views
Re: For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 07:05:20 PM 894 Views
It's really not that bad - 16/12/2011 01:03:43 AM 1001 Views
Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 05:50:16 PM 1014 Views
That last part: just a joke. - 17/12/2011 06:06:43 PM 1059 Views
Re: Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 06:07:51 PM 1055 Views
No. But it is true that my risk aversion coefficient is too high. - 17/12/2011 06:49:33 PM 857 Views
Isn't learning to drive in NYC sort of like - 18/12/2011 04:21:47 AM 971 Views
Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:19:53 AM 885 Views
Re: Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:51:51 AM 835 Views
No problem. - 19/12/2011 06:36:59 AM 1277 Views
Don't worry about it it. I'm sure you'll get over it eventually. - 18/12/2011 09:58:59 AM 984 Views

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