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Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Vivien Send a noteboard - 13/12/2011 10:50:38 PM
The thing is I don't have a lot of confidence in my driving abilities and I feel like I do make mistakes. Well not just feel like it- I know so. I have less confidence in my driving than in others' driving. A driver that made a mistake would be considered at fault, right?

I'm fine being the passenger, because I trust others to be good drivers. Within reason, of course- I wear a seatbelt and I never have and never will get into a car with someone the least bit intoxicated, no matter what he says of how "totally fine" to drive he is.





Well, just because something is more likely to happen doesn't mean that it is very likely to happen. Car accidents are highly likely, yes, but fatal car accidents not so much. And fatal car accidents in which the driver was not at fault are quite rare, really.

The only way I see myself driving is by not thinking about the consequences. I guess what I'm saying is: why isn't *everyone* scared of driving? Do they just think that nothing bad will happen to them, they're invincible?

I think people largely tend to be less afraid when they are in control of the situation. I don't like airplanes because I'm not the one flying them, even though I know that the pilot has way more experience than I would. I'm okay with cars; I trust myself to drive well.

So... to a certain extent, yes. I don't think people consider themselves invincible, but I think they have a degree of confidence in their capabilities. I've been in two rather dangerous situations (one of which was really entirely my fault), and I managed through a combination of skill and luck to get out of them fine. That was something of a confidence booster, ironically.

Your anxiety: how did leaving the house hours earlier help? Maybe you left at a time where there'd be less cars on the road?

No, it helped because I actually have an anxiety disorder, so when I left the house hours earlier, I didn't give myself the time to mentally catastrophize ("What if I get into a car crash?" "What if I drive into a ditch?";) and turn myself into a wreck. Pun not intended.

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NSSP: Driving Vivien - 13/12/2011 05:15:41 PM 1515 Views
I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel - 13/12/2011 05:20:14 PM 1030 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Vivien - 13/12/2011 09:58:55 PM 960 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM 948 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:50:38 PM 1008 Views
Your first instinct was right, trust your instincts. *NM* random thoughts - 14/12/2011 03:16:51 AM 420 Views
I failed my first test. Nate - 13/12/2011 05:49:58 PM 1150 Views
I would love to drive on empty country roads. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:08:35 PM 929 Views
I had to take the driving test 3 time before I passed (posted at the wrong place ) Linda - 13/12/2011 11:43:44 PM 1017 Views
Congratulations on passing it! Vivien - 14/12/2011 12:18:18 AM 947 Views
13 yrs old. FalonDeathwatchGuard - 13/12/2011 06:02:22 PM 1158 Views
Seriously? Why? At 13 you should have had some awareness of the danger you were posing to others Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:27:59 PM 1047 Views
Re: Seriously? Why? At 13 you should have had some awareness of the danger you were posing to others FalonDeathwatchGuard - 13/12/2011 10:37:41 PM 898 Views
Probably just a difference in perspective. Kids sneaking a vehicle for a jor ride is pretty common. everynametaken - 15/12/2011 03:51:30 AM 1039 Views
Yeah it is! vroom vroom vroom!! FalonDeathwatchGuard - 15/12/2011 03:26:28 PM 1083 Views
I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. Macharius - 13/12/2011 06:28:26 PM 1153 Views
Re: I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:29:20 PM 1043 Views
It must be harder to overcome that natural fear in NYC. Sareitha Sedai - 13/12/2011 06:44:28 PM 985 Views
Yeah, absolutely. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:32:25 PM 1124 Views
Or drive your drunk sister home from a party. *NM* Aeryn - 14/12/2011 05:27:01 PM 501 Views
Driving IS overrated. Jacob - 13/12/2011 07:01:02 PM 1003 Views
Re: Driving IS overrated. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:43:09 PM 825 Views
Isn't it traditional to fail your first test? Or is that just around here? Legolas - 13/12/2011 08:14:01 PM 998 Views
I wouldn't think so Dark Knight - 13/12/2011 08:25:36 PM 880 Views
I'm not in any state. Legolas - 13/12/2011 08:31:30 PM 954 Views
Re: I'm not in any state. Vivien - 13/12/2011 10:56:38 PM 915 Views
It's rare to pass on the first try here. (according to driving instructor) Vivien - 13/12/2011 09:44:39 PM 1056 Views
I think it depends on where you live Isaac - 13/12/2011 09:11:13 PM 895 Views
Re: I think it depends on where you live Vivien - 13/12/2011 09:34:30 PM 1073 Views
I know Texas talked about doing away with it because the failure rate was so low random thoughts - 14/12/2011 03:15:11 AM 956 Views
When I was in New Jersey... rebelaessedai - 13/12/2011 11:30:59 PM 992 Views
Maybe they're the ones who couldn't hack driving in NYC? *NM* Vivien - 14/12/2011 12:21:09 AM 534 Views
I wonder how many people that have been driving for years and years would fail if they had to take Tashmere - 14/12/2011 12:03:55 AM 954 Views
Oh I think most people with years' worth of driving experience be fine. Vivien - 14/12/2011 12:27:09 AM 1157 Views
I was even rather nervous about taking lessons and failed my first ironclad - 14/12/2011 08:30:25 AM 1101 Views
I love driving. Avendesora - 14/12/2011 03:24:59 PM 1032 Views
Re: I love driving. Macharius - 14/12/2011 05:44:57 PM 865 Views
Avendesora - 14/12/2011 06:02:42 PM 1158 Views
I thought it quite clever, actually. Macharius - 14/12/2011 06:54:27 PM 848 Views
Me, too. aerocontrols - 18/12/2011 04:31:29 AM 933 Views
Drive safely! Avendesora - 18/12/2011 04:58:01 AM 1013 Views
Re: Me, three. Palatine - 18/12/2011 07:37:55 PM 1007 Views
Re: Me, three. aerocontrols - 19/12/2011 06:10:20 AM 886 Views
Welcome home. *NM* Palatine - 19/12/2011 04:41:26 PM 439 Views
Did you ever attend a driving school? *NM* Palatine - 14/12/2011 05:29:33 PM 434 Views
I don't think so. Vivien - 15/12/2011 05:22:09 AM 1044 Views
Oh. ironclad - 15/12/2011 08:32:59 AM 1102 Views
Yes, you did. Palatine - 15/12/2011 04:44:48 PM 947 Views
Re: Yes, you did. Vivien - 16/12/2011 12:25:30 AM 945 Views
Re: Yes, you did. Palatine - 16/12/2011 04:42:40 PM 1150 Views
That's not a sign. Aeryn - 14/12/2011 05:29:36 PM 1004 Views
I take exception to this. Stephen - 14/12/2011 06:29:40 PM 960 Views
Whoa. rebelaessedai - 15/12/2011 07:21:52 AM 1033 Views
Fewer cars on the road. Fewer double-parked cars. *NM* Aeryn - 15/12/2011 06:25:21 PM 387 Views
Also: you have no fear. *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:59:34 PM 499 Views
LOL! You guys are funny. rebelaessedai - 17/12/2011 06:52:22 AM 1021 Views
Also, you can tell when there's someone around the corner, because of the headlights. Tim - 19/12/2011 04:18:26 PM 988 Views
Oooh, that's a good point. Vivien - 19/12/2011 05:17:16 PM 1110 Views
It's more pronounced and important in the countryside where there are no streetlights. Tim - 19/12/2011 05:51:25 PM 1105 Views
In the country there are deer aerocontrols - 20/12/2011 05:53:17 AM 981 Views
Oh yeah, forgot about those. We don't have that many left, and only up in the Highlands. *NM* Tim - 20/12/2011 10:18:41 AM 570 Views
Driving tests are far harder in the Netherlands, from what I understand Helene - 14/12/2011 05:34:38 PM 922 Views
For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. Tom - 14/12/2011 06:43:38 PM 826 Views
Re: For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. Macharius - 14/12/2011 07:05:20 PM 894 Views
don't worry i fluffed my practical test up today Yunalesca - 14/12/2011 08:24:56 PM 1029 Views
I'm older than you and there's no way I would have willingly gotten behind the wheel at 17. Vivien - 15/12/2011 05:12:29 AM 936 Views
I found driving nervewracking until I got to do it by myself. NZ has a great system, IMO. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 01:48:19 PM 864 Views
It's really not that bad Praziquantel - 16/12/2011 01:03:43 AM 1001 Views
Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. Vivien - 17/12/2011 05:50:16 PM 1015 Views
That last part: just a joke. Vivien - 17/12/2011 06:06:43 PM 1060 Views
Re: Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. TaskmasterJack - 17/12/2011 06:07:51 PM 1056 Views
No. But it is true that my risk aversion coefficient is too high. Vivien - 17/12/2011 06:49:33 PM 858 Views
Isn't learning to drive in NYC sort of like aerocontrols - 18/12/2011 04:21:47 AM 972 Views
Finally! The right word. Vivien - 19/12/2011 02:19:53 AM 885 Views
Re: Finally! The right word. TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2011 02:51:51 AM 836 Views
No problem. aerocontrols - 19/12/2011 06:36:59 AM 1278 Views
Don't worry about it it. I'm sure you'll get over it eventually. Bergioyn - 18/12/2011 09:58:59 AM 985 Views
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