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Oo! Great Lord of Chaos Send a noteboard - 11/02/2010 12:10:06 PM
It's official. Last Friday I asked Vincent to marry me. The occasion was our 250 weekaversary. This is what happened.

For months, I've known that I would ask him. I've contemplated many surprise city trips, hotel trips, weekend getaways. But on the one hand considering the financial limitations in light of our trip to the US early May, and on the other hand my worries that I might just pick a really shitty place and that'd always be the place where we'd gotten engaged and therefore special... I ended up deciding that since Vincent's favourite place in the world is Amsterdam, we'd stay here.

I'd arranged that Vincent would keep the weekend available and Vijay would stay with my parents. I asked him early in the day, during our after sex cuddling (I figured I'd better ask when he's at his most vulnerable! Muahahaha). He said yes!

From then on, we let the weekend be decided by fate. We'd put different lunch places and restaurants on little pieces of paper, and Vincent would pick one and that's where we'd go!

On Saturday we went to buy rings. Originally we thought that it would take a while to find the right ones, but we found the perfect rings (for us) within half an hour!

The Netherlands doesn't have the huge diamond tradition. We both got brushed silver rings, about 4-5 mm wide, flat surface. Mine has a shiny second ring placed diagonally around it, which is much thinner and round (like a string). As you can hear, they're simple, yet elegant (at least, that's what I think!).

We haven't set a wedding date yet. The idea is that we'll be engaged for some years. I realize it's unusual, but really, we'll need that time to find the perfect cake!


Pictures are demanded.


Not of the sex-cuddling, though.
Ὦ ξεῖν', ἀγγέλλειν Λακεδαιμονίοις ὅτι τῇδε
κείμεθα, τοῖς κείνων ῥήμασι πειθόμενοι.
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Announcement: Vincent and I are engaged - 11/02/2010 10:38:57 AM 1354 Views
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ehehehe, she is so going to kill you. *NM* - 11/02/2010 03:51:27 PM 346 Views
Her silence has me even more worried now... *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:37:23 AM 355 Views
Entirely out of the loop... *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:06:21 AM 364 Views
I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 12/02/2010 09:36:38 AM 680 Views
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I'm sure you're up to it. - 11/02/2010 12:10:36 PM 728 Views
Thanks for your faith in me - 11/02/2010 12:38:56 PM 705 Views
Welcome; I often have more faith in a person than in people. - 13/02/2010 09:45:48 AM 1197 Views
Oo! - 11/02/2010 12:10:06 PM 780 Views
Pictures of what? The cake? The rings? Us? - 11/02/2010 12:41:12 PM 680 Views
Congratulations. Have a wonderful day. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:15:06 PM 432 Views
That'll be rather a while - years. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:00 PM 348 Views
Very cool. Congrats. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:34:31 PM 398 Views
Thank you! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:10 PM 378 Views
Congrats! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:59:18 PM 369 Views
Yay. Thanks! *NM* - 11/02/2010 01:04:59 PM 419 Views
Congratulations! That's lovely. - 11/02/2010 01:03:05 PM 679 Views
Ack! - 11/02/2010 01:04:00 PM 690 Views
The planning's the fun bit. - 11/02/2010 01:04:54 PM 699 Views
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Thanks, and I'm a little confused - 11/02/2010 01:44:57 PM 680 Views
Yes - 11/02/2010 02:57:40 PM 669 Views
Figures... it's not normal in the Netherlands, though - 11/02/2010 03:37:17 PM 669 Views
Diamonds are gross. - 12/02/2010 03:59:10 PM 656 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:55:36 PM 678 Views
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Congratulations. *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:44:27 PM 361 Views
congrats *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:47:39 PM 494 Views
yaaaay!!! congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 05:10:46 PM 368 Views
*gasp* Chick ain't supposed to ask the dude! - 11/02/2010 06:39:16 PM 731 Views
In gay marriages, does the top always ask the bottom? *NM* - 11/02/2010 07:27:11 PM 391 Views
I'm not sure, actually. More often than not, probably. - 11/02/2010 07:28:58 PM 665 Views
He better ask for my blessing first!!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:05 PM 371 Views
We'll see. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:09:07 PM 341 Views
Im definitely more top in my relationship and I mention all the important stuff first - 11/02/2010 08:05:15 PM 641 Views
Top? Pfffft. Y'all are total lesbians. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:10:01 PM 349 Views
Who would have thought conventional roles was you thing. - 11/02/2010 08:03:57 PM 566 Views
I'm totally on board with role....playing. - 11/02/2010 08:07:54 PM 656 Views
Why not? - 12/02/2010 07:08:03 AM 660 Views
It's....it's....it's just not done! *scandalized horror-stricken look* - 12/02/2010 09:48:17 PM 674 Views
I did it anyway! Muahahahaha. Also, I picked him up. - 13/02/2010 07:02:42 AM 628 Views
Good work! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:02:57 PM 286 Views
Congratulations!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:39 PM 338 Views
Awesome. - 11/02/2010 08:33:59 PM 782 Views
Owwww.. no it's not. SF all the way baby! - 12/02/2010 07:11:19 AM 652 Views
Congratulations, Helene ! - 12/02/2010 01:03:48 AM 842 Views
We're at least already well on our way, so far *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:13:05 AM 352 Views
Did you say,"... doesn't have the huge diamond tradition"? Sounds like I need a Dutch girl! - 12/02/2010 02:49:49 AM 682 Views
Dutch girls are a lot of fun, too *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:12:27 AM 349 Views
And they'll pay for their own dinner when you take them out, too! - 12/02/2010 12:06:15 PM 678 Views
Not all of us are that tall - 12/02/2010 12:28:51 PM 642 Views
How wonderful! Congratulations! - 12/02/2010 03:11:02 PM 660 Views
Thank you so much and of course - 12/02/2010 06:31:42 PM 741 Views
Are you both in Amsterdam now, or will we have to add Leiden to our itinerary? *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:44:01 PM 340 Views
Why isn't Leiden on your itinerary already? - 12/02/2010 09:39:02 PM 632 Views
Where do you live? - 12/02/2010 09:59:45 PM 674 Views
Ooh, excellent. - 12/02/2010 10:57:41 PM 890 Views
Well, ain't that handy. - 12/02/2010 11:41:32 PM 609 Views
Even better. Cheaper beers than in Brussels, that's for sure. *NM* - 13/02/2010 02:39:03 PM 347 Views
Congratulations *NM* - 12/02/2010 03:47:28 PM 331 Views
YAY! Congratulations! *NM* - 14/02/2010 04:10:45 AM 320 Views

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