but it's actually a lot healthier to run over those annoying wake-up bumps on the side of the road occasionally. You can't be forceful, so yeah, high road it must be. However, if you don't tell her things when they are angering you, you're allowing her to put you in the corner. You're even on this at this point, given that she somehow felt trapped, and I agree with others who've said that she might just need to find own space again, but you still can't let your emotions go unheeded completely. So, more of a tightrope than a high road?

I think you're doing well. You're trying, and you're doing it with reason and clarity. That's a major thing.