For one, we will probably try to avoid the courts, since it is not required as long as we can agree. Secondly, the standard here is to split the time in some way, either one week each or some other schedule we can agree on. Thirdly, both of us want the other one to be an important part in the kids' lives.

And they're quite small (2 in January and 5 in February), the younger one just starting kindergarten. We started on a schedule yesterday. The first draft feels messy, but we both want to see the kids at least every other day and have activities at times with no kindergarten. So as of now no more regularity that this schedule will allow. I'm sure it'll be different in a year or two, but then again I talked to a friend yesterday who is now 4 years separated, and they still have to talk through every week due to irregular shift work among other things