Both of them consented to an illicit relationship. Neither is worse, unless you believe that men are more moral or have superior judgment, and thus should be held to a higher standard.

So what? You're a Muslim. What's the difference, except you happen to think one is worse? There are a lot of other people who would argue the inverse. All I ever see from you is high-handed condemnations of people you've never met. Stop being so judgmental.