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From a wife who used to think it was just a piece of paper. Avendesora - 30/01/2003 02:31:16 PM

Hm. You ask a good question here. I used to think that marriage was just a piece of paper. The last guy I was with before my husband, was a relationship that lasted 5 and 1/2 years. I used to kind of wish he would propose, but that really was just for the sake of hearing "the speech of devotion" that ALL , yes ALL girls want to hear. We broke up shortly thereafter. I really USED to think that love was enough. Then, when I met Curt, I knew he was the guy I wanted to MARRY, and I knew that I wanted to be married. If you don't think you want to be married to the person, then they aren't the right one.

In theory, "love will be strong enough to bind us together" is true. but it just does not work in real life ("on paper", as it were )

As far as the piece of paper goes, it's not "back up" as you put it. It's the wax seal on the letter. It's the icing on the cake, it's the... you get what I mean.

I used to think that marriage was just a legal contract and a piece of paper. But there is something that comes over you, almost like a magic spell, when you say your vows to your new spouse in front of a witness. It is a magic I can't explain. Not only do I think it was worth it, our relationship is better. It is also more challenging, but that crap only comes from the new legal crap like TAXES and MORTGAGE.

And commenting on divorce... Unless my husband turns out to be a huge @$$hole that I never thought he would be, we won't get divorced.

I was VERY picky and selective. You don't just say "I love you very much so let's get married" If I married everyone I fell in love with, I would have to change my name to Liz Taylor. It's not about love. It's about committing your lives to each other.
And I don't mean , "Yeah I guess I could deal with staying with that person for a lifetime". I KNOW this is the man for me. Feeling that you are able to tolerate someone's faults for life are NOT the grounds for marriage.

Feeling you can be supportive, loving, honest, etc to each other for a lifetime is the gorunds for marriage.

Marriage is not just a piece of paper. I hope my response helped you understand my point of view. if not,

Then maybe I am just a big mushy sappy person




I believe only news and research that validates my opinion. Everything else is conspiracy and lies.

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~Largely agrees~ - 30/01/2003 12:44:12 PM 9 Views
Well let me put it this way... - 30/01/2003 12:58:21 PM 8 Views
A good idea. - 30/01/2003 01:09:06 PM 8 Views
Re: A good idea. - 30/01/2003 01:23:32 PM 7 Views
*nods* - 30/01/2003 01:31:15 PM 7 Views
Re: *nods* - 30/01/2003 01:42:30 PM 7 Views
It is, I'm interested in all of your opinions. - 30/01/2003 01:50:06 PM 7 Views
Why thank you.... - 30/01/2003 02:08:24 PM 7 Views
Just out of interest, - 30/01/2003 02:20:37 PM 8 Views
I'm 22 (and I had to think about that for a second ) *NM* - 30/01/2003 02:25:49 PM 2 Views
Yes. - 30/01/2003 12:36:41 PM 38 Views
Hear, Hear! *NM* - 30/01/2003 12:44:41 PM 6 Views
<takes a bow> *NM* - 30/01/2003 12:48:34 PM 6 Views
*Cathes a nice view when you were down* *NM* - 30/01/2003 12:49:38 PM 4 Views
Hmmm - 30/01/2003 12:47:55 PM 19 Views
<plays along> - 30/01/2003 12:58:33 PM 15 Views
Plays along part 2. - 30/01/2003 01:02:56 PM 12 Views
You stupid. <playing along Part 3> - 30/01/2003 01:10:25 PM 11 Views
Oh dear... - 30/01/2003 01:12:20 PM 11 Views
lol, D. You're so cute. - 30/01/2003 01:17:37 PM 10 Views
Very well said... - 30/01/2003 01:37:57 PM 19 Views
lol - 30/01/2003 01:39:18 PM 10 Views
Grr. - 30/01/2003 02:08:42 PM 9 Views
Point taken - you need to get the gear from somewhere - 30/01/2003 02:17:01 PM 8 Views
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Re: There is also a legal aspect... - 30/01/2003 01:36:13 PM 16 Views
I'm hearing you all out sis. - 30/01/2003 01:41:42 PM 10 Views
Re: Hmmmmm.... - 30/01/2003 03:20:30 PM 7 Views
Excellent point, and one that I completely missed considering. *NM* - 30/01/2003 01:45:39 PM 3 Views
It's more than a piece of paper - 30/01/2003 01:53:34 PM 18 Views
A piece of paper with a paper clip? <--- That's more. - 30/01/2003 02:00:06 PM 9 Views
Something like that - 30/01/2003 02:22:48 PM 9 Views
~Starts romantic music~ - 30/01/2003 02:26:52 PM 10 Views
Dude - 30/01/2003 03:02:43 PM 7 Views
Not even to me - 30/01/2003 03:31:52 PM 6 Views
That offer wasn't on the table! - 30/01/2003 04:13:24 PM 6 Views
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Soumnds like it to me. - 30/01/2003 02:39:03 PM 9 Views
I like this response, Ave. (and my response) - 30/01/2003 02:49:22 PM 21 Views
Re: From a wife who used to think it was just a piece of paper. - 30/01/2003 03:52:34 PM 11 Views
Re: From a wife who used to think it was just a piece of paper. - 30/01/2003 03:52:35 PM 6 Views
I do not need it - 30/01/2003 03:35:29 PM 12 Views
Do you ever dream of your wedding dress? - 30/01/2003 03:51:23 PM 8 Views
not so far - 31/01/2003 09:33:32 AM 8 Views
I'm all for marriage. - 30/01/2003 04:00:13 PM 9 Views
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it's a piece of paper - 30/01/2003 04:27:20 PM 18 Views
I don't know if you are... - 30/01/2003 04:31:29 PM 11 Views
ok, if you must know.... - 31/01/2003 07:30:15 AM 8 Views
No. - 30/01/2003 05:53:33 PM 5 Views
Marriage is what you make it - 30/01/2003 06:19:09 PM 7 Views
i dont believe it is - 30/01/2003 08:21:16 PM 12 Views
doesn't mean anything to me - 31/01/2003 02:54:12 AM 8 Views
In my opinion...... - 31/01/2003 07:37:52 AM 7 Views
Marriage is important - 31/01/2003 10:59:17 AM 8 Views
Marriage, - 31/01/2003 04:11:26 PM 7 Views
Very important to me. - 31/01/2003 11:08:37 PM 5 Views
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