Everyone has their own, individual things that make them happy and what works for one person won't work for someone else. Don't have expectations - just take things as they come and you can enjoy the little moments. It's expectation that destroys our chance of just enjoying things. Hell, I think that's why people like McDonald's - the food isn't good but it always meets expectations, so people aren't disenchanted and unhappy when they leave. Remove the expectations and do what you enjoy, and if you're having problems figuring that out meditate. It helps clear your mind of all the unnecessary detritus that we collect - other peoples' expectations, our own expectations, preconceptions and assumptions we carry around like baggage but don't need to and a whole host of things that are keeping you from realizing happiness. Just do it for a half hour each day. I think the chanting and smelling incense sort of crap is just that - crap. You just need a way to focus on something and do proper breathing exercises. If you're looking for a CD series I can recommend some.