I rant about all these things because they drive me utterly crazy and, to be entirely honest, the support really helps.

That said, Amy is not a bad or evil person. She came from a very abusive background and has issues with depression. I did my best to help her and I do still care for her, but those background issues are really the cause of everything that's going on here.

She's a very good mother when it comes to loving her children, spending time with them, looking out for their welfare etc. She will feed her kids and go hungry herself every bit as much as I will.

All these are good qualities and they do still exist. I don't hate Amy or even dislike her. But I just cannot tolerate the self delusion she's doing in order to feel like she needs to feel (or something). She interprets light aside comments or agreements to something in principle as firm commitments when, of course they weren't. She proposes something and if your answer isn't a firm NO and she wants it to be yes, whatever non-committal thing you muttered is now an ironclad contract of agreement.

These things are issues and they are hard to deal with. However she is very much a victim of them herself.

I just don't want everyone to think that my rants over some of the more out there things she does means that I hate or dislike her because that's not true. I wish I could help her, but I cannot do that. She has to do that. I can support, but that's it. And even that only if she lets me.

I just wanted to clear the air on that.