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Ah, okay. Her apology does seem rather clumsy, agreed there. Legolas Send a noteboard - 08/09/2010 11:05:34 PM
Personally, I think that if your go-to insult is based on a negative image of a group of people, you likely have issues with that group of people. Even if you just think they're abnormal, freakish, or unpleasant, those are still issues you have with them.

When a slur against queer folk is the thing that comes out of you to slam your opponents, that does speak to what's going on inside.

Eh. I'm with Rebekah on this, really. Obviously my native language isn't English in any form, but I can think of a word - actually, two words - in Dutch (well, Flemish, anyway) that I think carry a similar meaning to what she's describing, so what she's saying makes sense to me. Words that certainly can be used as a slur against gay people, but that carry a primary meaning of a weak and effeminate man, gay or straight. And if those words are used between friends, or in trash talking of an opponent in sports, they are obviously still crude and offensive to some, but not really intended as a reference to homosexuality.

So no, I don't think she's a closet homophobe. Soul-searching never did anyone any harm, but I don't think she actually needs to do it. :P
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Interesting way to bring people together - 08/09/2010 04:36:19 PM 1990 Views
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omigod....what a ridiculous overreaction - 08/09/2010 04:55:55 PM 1185 Views
omigod....what a ridiculous overreaction - 08/09/2010 04:55:55 PM 863 Views
1. That girl is an idiot who needs to do some soul searching... - 08/09/2010 07:07:47 PM 1146 Views
? not that her comment was excusable... - 08/09/2010 07:45:59 PM 1208 Views
It's not a cardinal sin against humanity... - 08/09/2010 07:55:55 PM 1342 Views
or it just means... - 08/09/2010 08:18:57 PM 1280 Views
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your soul is your being - 08/09/2010 08:43:18 PM 1131 Views
Just because you search does not mean you re-evaluate. - 08/09/2010 08:45:31 PM 1020 Views
You have an odd definition of homophobe (or at least that's what your last paragraph implies). - 08/09/2010 10:04:52 PM 1104 Views
I was trying to use her words... - 08/09/2010 10:17:32 PM 1220 Views
Ah, okay. Her apology does seem rather clumsy, agreed there. - 08/09/2010 11:05:34 PM 1062 Views
Glad to clear up that confusion. - 08/09/2010 11:11:35 PM 1239 Views
I don't think you should read too much in the exact wording of her apology. - 08/09/2010 11:24:21 PM 1110 Views
I'm horrible for tearing into the meaning of words. - 08/09/2010 11:36:34 PM 1097 Views
Entirely agree *NM* - 08/09/2010 10:46:12 PM 595 Views
You should watch that Southpark episode where they change the meaning of the word faggot. - 08/09/2010 09:24:16 PM 998 Views
I've seen it, and it was funny. - 08/09/2010 09:40:43 PM 1200 Views
Suspect you need to consider the way the word is used in other countries. - 08/09/2010 09:46:05 PM 1064 Views
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The insult word for homosexuals Downunder tends to be Fruit or Queer. - 08/09/2010 09:58:04 PM 1239 Views
Don't forget Poofta!! - 08/09/2010 10:57:00 PM 900 Views
Heh, I had forgotten that. - 08/09/2010 10:58:53 PM 1149 Views
She said she needs to learn to think before she tweets lol - 08/09/2010 08:14:38 PM 1453 Views
Yes, but that's just a surface change. - 08/09/2010 08:20:59 PM 1286 Views
Re: Yes, but that's just a surface change. - 08/09/2010 08:39:52 PM 1508 Views
Re: Yes, but that's just a surface change. - 08/09/2010 08:43:55 PM 1121 Views
mm, i doubt that would make people shut up - 08/09/2010 08:44:29 PM 990 Views
A concerted effort would do it... - 08/09/2010 08:47:50 PM 1075 Views
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"Just because a person is gay, mayor, doesn't mean he is a fag" - 09/09/2010 05:27:50 AM 988 Views
It was a very good game though, wasn't it? *NM* - 09/09/2010 12:56:33 PM 626 Views

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