Yes. And that "within reason" comment is why I said it can be tricky. If he didn't want her to have his accounts, he could feel it was ok to resist on the basis of just regular old privacy, but he would obviously not be doing much to foster healing. And a good job seems like a different beast to me. It's gonna be tough, but she'll have to decide what is worth forcing and whether that's enough. Or too much.

Ultimately, I think you're right that there are personal reasons for this, and that most of it has nothing to do with "just because I could." If they can find those reasons, it might go well.