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Do your job, talk to your manager or HR Kel Send a noteboard - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM
You do your job and when she tries to bully you, you stand your ground and don't go along with it. Only you can let the bully get to you.

If you have specific examples, talk to your manager. If they are unwilling to help, talk to HR. Keep working up the chain until someone is willing to listen, and keep a record of what you are doing. I have a feeling that if your manager isn't willing to help, then HR definitely will. Companies are hyper-sensitive to this kind of stuff. If you file a formal complaint, the company will have to take some kind of action.

My wife had a similar situation, where one of her coworkers (who isn't her supervisor) basically told the rest of the staff "I'm just a bitch and you're all just going to have to deal with that". It's taken a few months, and it hasn't gotten really any better, but at least her manager knows what is going on. The problem is that with the union, they really can't do anything.
Kel (formerly Tristan de Luna)
Si hoc legere scis nimium eruditionis habes.

Politics: A strife of interests masquerading as a contest of principles. -- Ambrose Bierce

Time is a confidence game invented by the Swiss.
This message last edited by Kel on 16/11/2010 at 01:10:24 PM
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Office Bully - 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM 1243 Views
Rat poison. *NM* - 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM 326 Views
Oh yes. - 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM 672 Views
How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM* - 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM 290 Views
this is what I was thinking. - 16/11/2010 05:49:03 AM 678 Views
i worked with a guy once who was the owner's neighbor - 16/11/2010 06:42:34 AM 738 Views
She is the owner's wife. *NM* - 16/11/2010 04:40:30 PM 301 Views
do you have an HR department? - 16/11/2010 06:40:29 AM 749 Views
Punch her? *NM* - 16/11/2010 06:42:44 AM 350 Views
Do your job, talk to your manager or HR - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM 752 Views
Re: Office Bully - 16/11/2010 04:01:17 PM 723 Views
There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife. - 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM 756 Views
...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM* - 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM 344 Views
I've spoken to her - 16/11/2010 07:45:26 PM 695 Views
ah yah. in that case, you can probably only quit or "deal" *NM* - 16/11/2010 07:48:31 PM 365 Views
you could stop bullying people - 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM 724 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 06:13:25 PM 363 Views
wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM* - 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM 350 Views
which part did you have a problem with? *NM* - 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM 337 Views
Well, that was utterly uncalled for. - 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM 737 Views
oh please - 16/11/2010 10:37:40 PM 844 Views
I don't read every thread on this board. I don't have to. - 16/11/2010 11:04:56 PM 694 Views
I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM* - 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM 332 Views
I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt. - 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM 789 Views
I took that as a good natured tease. - 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM 719 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. - 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM 676 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. - 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM 728 Views
As did I, actually. *NM* - 16/11/2010 11:25:13 PM 315 Views
Sign me up under this one, too. *NM* - 17/11/2010 10:45:00 PM 379 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM 353 Views
*NM* - 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM 339 Views
Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM* - 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM 344 Views
Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing - 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM 670 Views
You are much better at thinking the best of people! - 16/11/2010 11:02:24 PM 657 Views
Some people make it easy. - 16/11/2010 11:05:08 PM 613 Views
I thought he was teasing too. *NM* - 17/11/2010 02:26:35 AM 311 Views
Re: Ditto. - 17/11/2010 02:30:20 AM 719 Views
Dittoditto - 17/11/2010 03:24:39 AM 802 Views
Make sure that you are doing a superb job... - 16/11/2010 11:02:44 PM 709 Views
You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue. - 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM 668 Views
What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM* - 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM 328 Views
She would likely open the door for me. - 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM 687 Views
The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM* - 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM 340 Views
It's not full time - 18/11/2010 06:08:22 PM 689 Views
Definitely time to go then. - 17/11/2010 12:45:35 AM 831 Views
Re: - 17/11/2010 12:12:02 AM 803 Views
We had a bully. - 17/11/2010 03:27:31 AM 748 Views
^this. - 18/11/2010 08:37:22 AM 803 Views
Is the bully the boss? - 17/11/2010 03:28:08 AM 901 Views
How does one combat douchbaggery? - 18/11/2010 05:16:20 PM 653 Views
Alas - 18/11/2010 06:06:38 PM 997 Views
Cut the nozzle and stop pouring in the vinegar solution. *NM* - 18/11/2010 11:47:34 PM 330 Views

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