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Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM
There is a bully in my office. She doesn't answer to anyone, so she of course gets away with it.

Aside from quitting, is there any recourse?



...and it sounds like you're not.

Most bullies will stop targeting you if it stops being satisfying to them. Refuse to play her game. If it were me, and there were nothing I could do to affect/change her behavior, I'd kill her with kindness. It confuses them and makes you look like a saint :D

Anything she tells you, you just give her a big smile and say something like, "that's a really great suggestion. I never would have even thought of doing it that way. Thank you!" Invite her out to lunch to ask for her ideas about how to do your job better. You can totally play her. Just have fun with it!


If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.

"The trophy problem has become extreme."
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Office Bully Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:19:36 AM 1470 Views
Rat poison. *NM* Tom - 16/11/2010 04:37:34 AM 439 Views
Oh yes. Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:40:20 AM 884 Views
In all seriousness, we don't have enough information on exactly what she's saying/doing. Tom - 16/11/2010 11:21:22 PM 906 Views
How does she not answer to anyone? Is she the manager? *NM* Ghavrel - 16/11/2010 05:37:52 AM 391 Views
this is what I was thinking. LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 05:49:03 AM 877 Views
i worked with a guy once who was the owner's neighbor moondog - 16/11/2010 06:42:34 AM 952 Views
She is the owner's wife. *NM* Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:40:30 PM 386 Views
do you have an HR department? moondog - 16/11/2010 06:40:29 AM 962 Views
Punch her? *NM* Kronin al'Sulc - 16/11/2010 06:42:44 AM 450 Views
Do your job, talk to your manager or HR Kel - 16/11/2010 01:04:05 PM 971 Views
Re: Office Bully skippy - 16/11/2010 04:01:17 PM 941 Views
Hrm. Whether there's recourse or not depends on whether you're supported by management Sareitha Sedai - 16/11/2010 04:14:20 PM 904 Views
There is no HR dept/ and she is the owner's wife. Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 04:37:09 PM 968 Views
...have you tried talking with her about it, or are you just assuming it will go poorly? *NM* LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 05:03:18 PM 435 Views
I've spoken to her Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 07:45:26 PM 927 Views
ah yah. in that case, you can probably only quit or "deal" *NM* LadyLorraine - 16/11/2010 07:48:31 PM 455 Views
you could stop bullying people random thoughts - 16/11/2010 04:50:42 PM 955 Views
*NM* Birdeye - 16/11/2010 06:13:25 PM 484 Views
wow. I just don't know what to say to that. *NM* Amyrlin - 16/11/2010 07:44:14 PM 456 Views
which part did you have a problem with? *NM* random thoughts - 16/11/2010 08:15:02 PM 430 Views
Well, that was utterly uncalled for. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 08:26:28 PM 967 Views
oh please random thoughts - 16/11/2010 10:37:40 PM 1066 Views
I don't read every thread on this board. I don't have to. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:04:56 PM 931 Views
I didn't take that as rudenes. I am pretty sure he was just teasing. *NM* Tashmere - 16/11/2010 10:55:35 PM 443 Views
I thought that was possible on the original reply. The second removed my doubt. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:08:04 PM 1011 Views
I took that as a good natured tease. Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:14:52 PM 932 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. Rebekah - 16/11/2010 11:16:57 PM 894 Views
Re: I took that as a good natured tease. Tashmere - 17/11/2010 12:39:45 AM 907 Views
As did I, actually. *NM* Ghavrel - 16/11/2010 11:25:13 PM 418 Views
Sign me up under this one, too. *NM* Mats Gambling Buddy - 17/11/2010 10:45:00 PM 466 Views
*NM* Beqi - 16/11/2010 10:31:13 PM 455 Views
*NM* random thoughts - 16/11/2010 10:47:03 PM 457 Views
Oh you know it! Your reply was nothing but poop flinging. *NM* Beqi - 16/11/2010 10:51:07 PM 443 Views
Wow. I read what he said totally different from everyone else. I took the first part as teasing Tashmere - 16/11/2010 10:57:58 PM 891 Views
You are much better at thinking the best of people! Beqi - 16/11/2010 11:02:24 PM 885 Views
Some people make it easy. Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:05:08 PM 834 Views
I thought he was teasing too. *NM* Avendesora - 17/11/2010 02:26:35 AM 397 Views
Re: Ditto. Gaps - 17/11/2010 02:30:20 AM 917 Views
Dittoditto nossy - 17/11/2010 03:24:39 AM 1012 Views
Make sure that you are doing a superb job... Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:02:44 PM 971 Views
You could tell her you are ready to quit if things continue. Beqi - 16/11/2010 11:05:00 PM 860 Views
What would happen if you told her that, Amy? *NM* Tashmere - 16/11/2010 11:08:28 PM 409 Views
She would likely open the door for me. Amyrlin - 17/11/2010 12:35:23 AM 908 Views
The photography thing is just a hobby/extra income for now, then? *NM* Legolas - 17/11/2010 12:38:17 AM 429 Views
It's not full time Amyrlin - 18/11/2010 06:08:22 PM 900 Views
Definitely time to go then. Tashmere - 17/11/2010 12:45:35 AM 1027 Views
Re: Gaps - 17/11/2010 12:12:02 AM 1018 Views
We had a bully. nossy - 17/11/2010 03:27:31 AM 959 Views
^this. moondog - 18/11/2010 08:37:22 AM 1027 Views
Is the bully the boss? MightyYT - 17/11/2010 03:28:08 AM 1105 Views
You don't give enough information for us to be able to give you constructive advice *NM* Helene - 18/11/2010 11:30:16 AM 383 Views
How does one combat douchbaggery? Mats Gambling Buddy - 18/11/2010 05:16:20 PM 864 Views
Alas Amyrlin - 18/11/2010 06:06:38 PM 1196 Views
Cut the nozzle and stop pouring in the vinegar solution. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 18/11/2010 11:47:34 PM 423 Views
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