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Dating websites Sports_Gambler Send a noteboard - 13/01/2011 02:46:41 PM

Are you a member of any dating websites?


I do have a profile up at OKCupid for fun just as a social experiment. Written commmunication is a different medium from face-to-face, so a lot of what I leaned is probably just specific to on-line, but I did learn a few general points applicable to dating in any setting:

(1) Direct sexual come-ons are generally disasterous. ;)

(2) Unless you are very attractive, you are going to have a hard time getting action from strangers, looks matter a LOT more than people are willing to admit, and that's true for both men AND women.

(3) The very hint of a formal romantic setting or 'date' immediately puts people on the defensive and stops them having fun - kinda sad. The same girl that would chat to you quite happily in a non-dating setting will suddenly clam-up and stop giving you the time of day in a dating context. Weird but truth.

If you are a guy, I wouldn't recommend dating websites unless you think you are in the top 20% in the looks department and can handle a lot of rejection. Generally guys only get a response rate of 10-30%, and its near impossible to keep a girl talking to you for any length of time, since they are constantly being bombarded by messages from hundreds of other guys.

In short, these places are definitely not good places to meet people. I got far more action on wotmania in a week than I ever did in a year on OKCupid ;)
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errr *NM* - 13/01/2011 02:03:16 AM 358 Views
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Ha! POINT! *NM* - 14/01/2011 04:47:11 AM 380 Views
Smart arse. - 13/01/2011 04:25:53 AM 831 Views
My wife frowns on it. - 13/01/2011 03:00:46 AM 820 Views
Does she, now? - 13/01/2011 04:25:04 AM 776 Views
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No. Never have. - 13/01/2011 09:16:18 AM 903 Views
Amen. - 13/01/2011 03:21:21 PM 816 Views
+1 - 13/01/2011 05:32:11 PM 789 Views
I've always thought so... - 14/01/2011 04:51:55 AM 787 Views
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Good for you, - 14/01/2011 04:51:07 AM 792 Views
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Dating websites - 13/01/2011 02:46:41 PM 829 Views
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Thanks for sharing. That was interesting. *NM* - 14/01/2011 02:54:10 AM 368 Views
Yes, on the subject of OKCupid... - 14/01/2011 05:15:27 AM 983 Views
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I would say you're right... with a caveat.... - 15/01/2011 12:54:16 AM 947 Views
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a long time ago, in a galaxy far away or maybe the same one as this one.... - 13/01/2011 03:36:38 PM 859 Views
BWAHhAhAHHAaaa. Brilliant. ^_^ - 14/01/2011 05:17:31 AM 755 Views
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Do busy drinking to date *NM* - 14/01/2011 03:51:40 AM 356 Views
Maybe I should take that up... might help. *NM* - 14/01/2011 05:19:25 AM 357 Views
dating is interesting.... - 14/01/2011 07:16:23 AM 846 Views
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it definitely can be torturous! - 20/01/2011 03:20:32 AM 825 Views
Not since I began attending a university that is only ~30% women. - 14/01/2011 08:41:55 AM 822 Views
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