Re: love as private irrationality vs public rationality.
(beat.) Send a noteboard - 11/02/2011 11:00:15 AM
1. Is there one person out there meant for you (soulmate) or an endless combination of suitable choices?
I think the idea of soulmate, that you're a half in need of another half to complete you, is really, really gross. And I don't mean that in a pseudo-femminist wraagh! independent woman! kind of way; I mean that the idea reduces love to something irrational, something that just happens to you and you can't control it. Love does not make you dumb & blind. It's within that rational choice to love that its transformative powers operate. It necessarily thrives on difference; not in the sense of opposites attract, but as a continuous & conscious response to, and reformulation of, frictions. So, uh, while the combinations might not be endless, that's only because it doesn't make sense to talk about infinitude within the constraints of finite life. It is certainly possible to love way more than one person, however.
2. If soulmates did exist, what do you think the odds would be of actually finding them?
Should be all but guaranteed, then.
3. How long after a breakup/divorce is it acceptable to start dating again?
Before, during, immediately after, five years after, never; either and all. (It's the word "acceptable" I object to.)
4. If you come out of a long-term relationship wanting to date right away, what do you think that means in regards to your feelings for that person?
In itself, not necessarily anything at all; except maybe to say something about your (lack of) dependence on that person.
5. How would you describe your romantic feelings; soft puddy or steel?
Uhm. Wavering, but soft.
6. In relation to the question above, describe your openness to your partner on a scale of 1-10. One being a closed book and 10 being open as a flower towards the sun.
Partner, as in sexual partner?, I guess I would say on avarage about. . . 5-7.
7. Do you agree or disagree with this statement: "If couples really knew what the other person was thinking, there would be no couples."
Very strongly disagree.
8. On a scale of 1-10, rate the importance of sex in a relationship.
10.
9. Do you always remember the first person you loved?
Yes.
10. When it comes to the end of a relationship; is it better to burn out or fade away?
I think burn out might be the lesser evil here. . .
"All the worlds are in the sky
and some of them keep me from falling."
-- Charlie Mystery, age 5
and some of them keep me from falling."
-- Charlie Mystery, age 5
For you love experts out there: One vs Many
- 09/02/2011 07:23:10 PM
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I wouldn't exactly call myself an expert, but what the hell. 
- 09/02/2011 07:50:09 PM
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- 09/02/2011 07:50:09 PM
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I don't consider myself and expert but I get as much practice as I can
- 09/02/2011 08:27:08 PM
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Re: I don't consider myself and expert but I get as much practice as I can
- 09/02/2011 09:22:10 PM
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Since I am the ultimate expert... </sarcasm>
- 09/02/2011 08:59:05 PM
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- 09/02/2011 08:59:05 PM
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Having read about love in a book once, I feel qualified to reply.
- 09/02/2011 10:35:58 PM
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You, sir, are a comic genius. If I'd been drinking milk it would've shot out of my nose!
- 09/02/2011 10:43:28 PM
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Hm. I wouldn't call myself an expert. Here are my answers, for what they're worth.
- 10/02/2011 01:08:10 AM
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Re: love as private irrationality vs public rationality.
- 11/02/2011 11:00:15 AM
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