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It's important to protect your boundaries Helene Send a noteboard - 15/06/2011 01:35:37 PM
Whenever something happens in a relationship that upsets the power balance like this, it's very important to redress them, or you end up in a very unbalanced negative situation.

Can you discuss this with him? Explain to him that you are worried that the way you are interacting will only end badly, and that you think it's important to make clear agreements on what is and isn't acceptable to either of you.

Either he recognizes that you (as a couple) are going down a dark path, and agrees to work on it... or he doesn't. I think that's the time when you start thinking about your other options.
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It's still hitting, right? - 14/06/2011 10:07:15 PM 912 Views
Yes. That's not okay. *NM* - 14/06/2011 10:21:53 PM 198 Views
Yes. It's not at all ok, and it is a big deal. - 14/06/2011 10:41:47 PM 611 Views
I know they sound like dumb questions. - 14/06/2011 10:49:47 PM 606 Views
No, it's not dumb. - 14/06/2011 11:03:05 PM 553 Views
Yes, it is. - 15/06/2011 03:12:27 AM 550 Views
He shouldn't hit you but don't overreact. - 15/06/2011 05:00:16 AM 567 Views
That all sounds like very good advice. - 15/06/2011 07:47:06 AM 565 Views
Maybe you should start earning a living. *NM* - 15/06/2011 07:52:39 AM 267 Views
THIS *NM* - 15/06/2011 08:02:00 AM 195 Views
It's important to protect your boundaries - 15/06/2011 01:35:37 PM 515 Views
Is it an event or is it a pattern? - 15/06/2011 02:12:50 PM 530 Views
Have you been able to talk to him about the incident? - 16/06/2011 02:22:24 AM 515 Views

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