It doesn't take into consideration the motivations behind those preferences. It isn't out of modesty I might check off an item on your list, but because it's my preference, and damn what anyone thinks of it. Call it my special type of kink. That, to me, is what owning and being comfortable with your own sexuality is. And not, like in the example Helene brings up, doing something that is unpleasant, that doesn't make you feel sexual, just because you're expected to. My priority is my pleasure and my satisfaction, not the other person's (that's secondary). I don't even care if that makes me a prude according to your list.