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Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. Ghavrel Send a noteboard - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM
Well, just because something is more likely to happen doesn't mean that it is very likely to happen. Car accidents are highly likely, yes, but fatal car accidents not so much. And fatal car accidents in which the driver was not at fault are quite rare, really.

The only way I see myself driving is by not thinking about the consequences. I guess what I'm saying is: why isn't *everyone* scared of driving? Do they just think that nothing bad will happen to them, they're invincible?

I think people largely tend to be less afraid when they are in control of the situation. I don't like airplanes because I'm not the one flying them, even though I know that the pilot has way more experience than I would. I'm okay with cars; I trust myself to drive well.

So... to a certain extent, yes. I don't think people consider themselves invincible, but I think they have a degree of confidence in their capabilities. I've been in two rather dangerous situations (one of which was really entirely my fault), and I managed through a combination of skill and luck to get out of them fine. That was something of a confidence booster, ironically.

Your anxiety: how did leaving the house hours earlier help? Maybe you left at a time where there'd be less cars on the road?

No, it helped because I actually have an anxiety disorder, so when I left the house hours earlier, I didn't give myself the time to mentally catastrophize ("What if I get into a car crash?" "What if I drive into a ditch?" and turn myself into a wreck. Pun not intended.

"We feel safe when we read what we recognise, what does not challenge our way of thinking.... a steady acceptance of pre-arranged patterns leads to the inability to question what we are told."
~Camilla

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NSSP: Driving - 13/12/2011 05:15:41 PM 1537 Views
I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 05:20:14 PM 1059 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 09:58:55 PM 977 Views
Re: I'm tempted to take this opportunity to poke fun at New Yorkers. - 13/12/2011 10:37:47 PM 964 Views
Your first instinct was right, trust your instincts. *NM* - 14/12/2011 03:16:51 AM 425 Views
I failed my first test. - 13/12/2011 05:49:58 PM 1167 Views
I would love to drive on empty country roads. - 13/12/2011 10:08:35 PM 950 Views
I had to take the driving test 3 time before I passed (posted at the wrong place ) - 13/12/2011 11:43:44 PM 1087 Views
Congratulations on passing it! - 14/12/2011 12:18:18 AM 960 Views
13 yrs old. - 13/12/2011 06:02:22 PM 1174 Views
I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:28:26 PM 1168 Views
Re: I don't blame you at all for not wanting to drive in NYC. - 13/12/2011 10:29:20 PM 1057 Views
It must be harder to overcome that natural fear in NYC. - 13/12/2011 06:44:28 PM 1019 Views
Yeah, absolutely. - 13/12/2011 10:32:25 PM 1138 Views
Or drive your drunk sister home from a party. *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:27:01 PM 508 Views
Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 07:01:02 PM 1022 Views
Re: Driving IS overrated. - 13/12/2011 10:43:09 PM 844 Views
Isn't it traditional to fail your first test? Or is that just around here? - 13/12/2011 08:14:01 PM 1014 Views
I wouldn't think so - 13/12/2011 08:25:36 PM 906 Views
I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 08:31:30 PM 969 Views
Re: I'm not in any state. - 13/12/2011 10:56:38 PM 935 Views
I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:11:13 PM 911 Views
Re: I think it depends on where you live - 13/12/2011 09:34:30 PM 1088 Views
When I was in New Jersey... - 13/12/2011 11:30:59 PM 1009 Views
Maybe they're the ones who couldn't hack driving in NYC? *NM* - 14/12/2011 12:21:09 AM 540 Views
I was even rather nervous about taking lessons and failed my first - 14/12/2011 08:30:25 AM 1118 Views
I love driving. - 14/12/2011 03:24:59 PM 1047 Views
Re: I love driving. - 14/12/2011 05:44:57 PM 884 Views
- 14/12/2011 06:02:42 PM 1177 Views
I thought it quite clever, actually. - 14/12/2011 06:54:27 PM 866 Views
Me, too. - 18/12/2011 04:31:29 AM 952 Views
Drive safely! - 18/12/2011 04:58:01 AM 1030 Views
Re: Me, three. - 18/12/2011 07:37:55 PM 1021 Views
Re: Me, three. - 19/12/2011 06:10:20 AM 906 Views
Welcome home. *NM* - 19/12/2011 04:41:26 PM 444 Views
Did you ever attend a driving school? *NM* - 14/12/2011 05:29:33 PM 442 Views
I don't think so. - 15/12/2011 05:22:09 AM 1059 Views
Oh. - 15/12/2011 08:32:59 AM 1120 Views
Yes, you did. - 15/12/2011 04:44:48 PM 963 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 12:25:30 AM 963 Views
Re: Yes, you did. - 16/12/2011 04:42:40 PM 1166 Views
That's not a sign. - 14/12/2011 05:29:36 PM 1024 Views
I take exception to this. - 14/12/2011 06:29:40 PM 978 Views
Whoa. - 15/12/2011 07:21:52 AM 1050 Views
Fewer cars on the road. Fewer double-parked cars. *NM* - 15/12/2011 06:25:21 PM 392 Views
Also: you have no fear. *NM* - 15/12/2011 11:59:34 PM 506 Views
LOL! You guys are funny. - 17/12/2011 06:52:22 AM 1035 Views
Also, you can tell when there's someone around the corner, because of the headlights. - 19/12/2011 04:18:26 PM 1005 Views
Oooh, that's a good point. - 19/12/2011 05:17:16 PM 1128 Views
For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 06:43:38 PM 841 Views
Re: For what it's worth NYC takes some getting used to. - 14/12/2011 07:05:20 PM 910 Views
It's really not that bad - 16/12/2011 01:03:43 AM 1018 Views
Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 05:50:16 PM 1035 Views
That last part: just a joke. - 17/12/2011 06:06:43 PM 1077 Views
Re: Amusing (to me) comparison to sex risks. - 17/12/2011 06:07:51 PM 1073 Views
No. But it is true that my risk aversion coefficient is too high. - 17/12/2011 06:49:33 PM 874 Views
Isn't learning to drive in NYC sort of like - 18/12/2011 04:21:47 AM 987 Views
Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:19:53 AM 903 Views
Re: Finally! The right word. - 19/12/2011 02:51:51 AM 851 Views
No problem. - 19/12/2011 06:36:59 AM 1298 Views
Don't worry about it it. I'm sure you'll get over it eventually. - 18/12/2011 09:58:59 AM 999 Views

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