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These seem kind of extreme. Vivien Send a noteboard - 15/12/2011 06:03:15 AM


So let's move on to the Wedding Reception. NOT EVERYONE COMING TO THE WEDDING HAS TO BE FED! Have a dinner for the wedding party and a dance and drinks for everyone else.
I'm a big fan of pot-luck, if you want, have friends or relatives not in the wedding party put together a pot-luck for those who aren't in the wedding party.
Have a Supper Club or Hall of some kind set up for dancing when you expect wedding party dinner to be over. Have a DJ or local band and open beer bar, if the guest want something stronger than beer it is an option but they have to pay.


These are the suggestions that are iffy. Not feeding everyone at the reception? I've never heard of that before. It seems that going to city hall to sign the contracts and then just throwing a party for relatives and friends to celebrate would be a better option (and I've been to several "wedding parties" that were like this). Really doesn't seem right to have a vip type section that gets food and everyone else just get drinks (that they would still have to pay for!?).

Cash bar- lame. Reaaally does not fly with russians. Russians actually go a step further and prefer for the bottles of alcohol to be on the tables and not just behind the bar. My father says that having to go to the bar and having to ask the bartender in order to have a drink means the host doesn't want people to drink /host is cheap. At the bar mitzvah I attended recently, there was a bar and a bartender waiting to make drinks but there was also a table with bottles of vodka just there so anyone could just pour their own shots.
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So it turns out that weddings are expensive... Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:24:17 PM 1924 Views
I am looking to drop about a grand on my son's rehearsal dinner *NM* random thoughts - 12/12/2011 04:42:53 PM 518 Views
Well, part of it is that the rehearsal dinner isn't on the $5k budget. Dannymac - 12/12/2011 04:46:30 PM 905 Views
It is avoidable, but people will treat you like you're a nutcase if you don't do most of the things nossy - 12/12/2011 05:02:14 PM 955 Views
my first wedding was in church with a pretty dress and a preacher random thoughts - 12/12/2011 06:12:02 PM 894 Views
We had a pretty dress and a notary public in the courtyard of the B&B. nossy - 12/12/2011 09:36:52 PM 935 Views
If I had it to all over again I would have formed a Rock Band and dated supermodels *NM* random thoughts - 13/12/2011 04:20:28 PM 478 Views
*NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/12/2011 10:15:04 PM 487 Views
Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 05:29:19 PM 1054 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:02:44 PM 932 Views
Re: Heh. Nate - 12/12/2011 06:44:30 PM 1067 Views
Re: Heh. Macharius - 12/12/2011 07:27:16 PM 1022 Views
We kept it to about $5000 also (including cost of rings). Macharius - 12/12/2011 06:06:54 PM 970 Views
I would say our wedding was about that. Lici - 12/12/2011 06:45:46 PM 1128 Views
I feel like they only have to be expensive if you let them be. LadyLorraine - 12/12/2011 07:07:59 PM 1002 Views
I got married two weeks ago for less than that. Aemon - 12/12/2011 09:56:43 PM 1097 Views
Congrats Sareitha Sedai - 12/12/2011 10:03:35 PM 904 Views
Thanks! Aemon - 13/12/2011 02:53:11 PM 905 Views
You've been holding out on us. Congratulations. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 13/12/2011 12:02:39 AM 534 Views
Honestly, I didn't think anyone would care. Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:08:44 PM 875 Views
Hey! No announcement??? Congratulations and may you find many years of happiness! *NM* everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:27:51 AM 570 Views
No, no announcement. I'm not really the center-of-attention type. haha Thanks though! *NM* Aemon - 13/12/2011 03:10:29 PM 485 Views
Congratulations, my friend. Jacob - 13/12/2011 03:21:22 PM 871 Views
Thanks. Aemon - 13/12/2011 06:38:59 PM 951 Views
Acceptable... Jacob - 13/12/2011 06:40:29 PM 873 Views
OMG! Congratulations! Danu - 14/12/2011 10:43:05 PM 880 Views
Thanks Danu. *NM* Aemon - 15/12/2011 11:08:51 PM 487 Views
i had 500 people at my wedding....... Aisha - 13/12/2011 12:05:38 AM 1064 Views
Everybody I have ever talked to that had a big, expensive wedding has told me that in hindsight... everynametaken - 13/12/2011 03:29:34 AM 877 Views
Yes they are. We're planning ours and... callandor1000 - 13/12/2011 02:19:42 AM 969 Views
Some people just don't seem to think outside of the box ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:15:49 AM 1039 Views
And several items on that chart are soo unnecessary *NM* ironclad - 13/12/2011 09:41:10 AM 513 Views
They're only as expensive as you make them. Tim - 14/12/2011 10:38:37 AM 874 Views
I'm so glad we went simple. Kaldric - 14/12/2011 03:08:45 PM 1035 Views
As someone who had a smaller wedding than was expected by certain people... Danu - 14/12/2011 10:36:57 PM 1013 Views
These seem kind of extreme. Vivien - 15/12/2011 06:03:15 AM 1027 Views
because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 12:59:39 PM 1049 Views
Not my personal history, but culture. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:53:12 PM 1051 Views
I agree that there are better cuts to make than refreshments LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:35:13 PM 1005 Views
Re: because of your history you might find a cash bar lame... callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:08:00 PM 1024 Views
Yeah, and that's why Russians are all dying of alcoholism. *NM* Macharius - 15/12/2011 01:46:52 PM 526 Views
You don't have to be an alcoholic to prefer not to have a cash bar at a party. Vivien - 15/12/2011 03:37:15 PM 920 Views
It is lame to expect the father of the bride to shell out tens of thousands for a party random thoughts - 15/12/2011 02:00:54 PM 1017 Views
seriously. who cares if people think you're "cheap". LadyLorraine - 15/12/2011 04:41:33 PM 924 Views
What my family tends to do (because it's huge) is this: Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:16:31 PM 1102 Views
That's what most German weddings do too. Reasonable. *NM* ironclad - 15/12/2011 03:38:40 PM 485 Views
If they're not close enough to invite to the reception, are they really needed at the ceremony? Vivien - 15/12/2011 08:18:18 PM 1018 Views
In most cases, a church ceremony tends to be an open thing. Anyone can come. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 10:11:30 PM 1056 Views
Apparently it's becoming more common over here to do weddings on a weekday. Rebekah - 15/12/2011 02:13:57 PM 899 Views
I can't imagine someone in America announcing their wedding was on a weekday. TaskmasterJack - 15/12/2011 10:07:55 PM 1145 Views
People not in America have way more vacation days... *NM* Vivien - 15/12/2011 11:56:22 PM 479 Views
That was part of the logic in my thinking, yes. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 12:46:53 AM 460 Views
Fridays are actually becoming more common. Sareitha Sedai - 16/12/2011 04:51:41 PM 854 Views
Why does the band get more than the photographer? Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 04:30:29 PM 823 Views
well they do have to split it 4 or 5 ways random thoughts - 16/12/2011 04:38:36 PM 913 Views
The thing is... it's NOT a night's work. Amyrlin - 16/12/2011 09:27:30 PM 1212 Views
Because if you put tiny plastic musical instruments on all the tables, your ears will bleed out. TaskmasterJack - 16/12/2011 10:04:59 PM 1285 Views
My advice based on what I've done so far. callandor1000 - 22/12/2011 01:27:29 PM 916 Views
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