I don't think anyone would nominate the guy for a medal, and the other fellow surely deserves accolade, but to say he's an awful person and that another person who knows him far better than you is a fool to want to marry him seems very unfair and kneejerk. It's frankly none of your business and the media shouldn't be broadcasting interviews of the victims like this, it's disgusting. Both of them are clearly way to shook up to be making decisions right now or relating traumatic events to anyone other than the authorities, who need to know, and mental health professional or close friends and family.