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It's perfectly fine and normal Stephen Send a noteboard - 09/11/2009 10:12:23 PM
First off, you all know I'm completely hopeless at social things, for a pretty good combination of reasons. But that doesn't change the fact that I've recently turned 21 and have still never been to a bar in my city. And I want to have one little tiny taste of that college experience. Problem is, I don't really have friends here - well, I have one, but he's odd and I'm sort of angry at him anyway. :P

Don't let it stop you. Go out. have fun.
Actually, what I really want to do is go to a lesbian/gay bar. Two new experiences in one! That would even more definitely rule out the hetero male friend, though.

So, yeah. How does one go about this? How do you even know which bars cater to the LGBTs? What kind of clothing do you wear? Does it mark you as a pathetic loser if you just sit there by yourself at the counter?

I imagine google may be your friend for lgbt-bar-finding activity. Wear whatever clothes you want and try to talk to some people. the worst that can happen is that they be uninterested.
I'm not looking to do anything wild or crazy, and I'm probably too shy to dance, so maybe it's just a bad idea anyway. All I really want to get out of it is a good beer and maybe a conversation with a pretty girl or two. Curiosity. You know.

Sounds like a good plan. Go for it.
All advice welcome.

I don't know if what i said counts as advice, but i hope it helps
Also, thanks to Mat Maniac for making me feel less embarrassed about my embarrassing social problems by posting about his own. ;)
"I mean, if everyone had a soul, there would be no contrast by which we could appreciate it. For giving us this perspective, we thank you." - Nate
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Need social advice. Is it... you know... allowed to go to a bar by yourself? Lupine - 09/11/2009 03:57:51 AM 1059 Views
Eek! I'm sorry I'm sorry! Lupine - 09/11/2009 03:58:21 AM 622 Views
Of course it is! Brian - 09/11/2009 04:06:22 AM 557 Views
For girls too? Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:22:09 PM 521 Views
Yeah Brian - 09/11/2009 04:30:27 PM 583 Views
If all you want is some place to have a good beer, then don't go to a LGBT bar. MightyYT - 09/11/2009 05:11:08 AM 528 Views
I think I can overcome the urge to dance, as long as it won't make me a pariah. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:20:46 PM 470 Views
Dude, this has nothing to do with TV Monkey - 09/11/2009 07:43:33 AM 624 Views
I know! I'm a dork! Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:13:10 PM 671 Views
It's hard, and I admire anyone who can pull it off. AgentOrange - 09/11/2009 10:21:43 AM 554 Views
Same here ironclad - 09/11/2009 11:36:30 AM 490 Views
Hm. I'm used to feeling socially awkward already, though. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:07:45 PM 598 Views
Bring a book? *NM* Camilla - 09/11/2009 11:01:54 AM 330 Views
... but which book? Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:09:29 PM 453 Views
If you take a book.. @my - 09/11/2009 02:12:13 PM 554 Views
To a gay bar in the midwest? Hehe. cabbage - 09/11/2009 02:29:07 PM 593 Views
lol, oh dear. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:43:41 PM 594 Views
Re: Twelve at a time! *NM* Danae al'Thor - 10/11/2009 04:04:41 AM 207 Views
Of course it is. Elaine - 09/11/2009 12:40:06 PM 554 Views
Thank you, that's good advice. *NM* Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:08:16 PM 221 Views
I've been to straight bars, and gay bars.. @my - 09/11/2009 02:11:40 PM 705 Views
Thank you, Amy, that really helps. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:16:33 PM 592 Views
You could ask 'teh gay' that you know that lives in the same city as you do. The Shrike - 09/11/2009 02:16:12 PM 521 Views
I was being passive. Hoping you would see this and respond. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:18:59 PM 486 Views
No, I'll reply in full/send noteboard. We can arrange something so you don't go alone. The Shrike - 09/11/2009 02:22:44 PM 502 Views
*NM* Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:34:37 PM 267 Views
<3 @my - 10/11/2009 02:26:04 AM 607 Views
It is nice of him, isn't it? *NM* Lupine - 10/11/2009 02:57:00 AM 283 Views
Exceptionally so. @my - 10/11/2009 03:00:43 AM 534 Views
Get a buzz going before you go there? cabbage - 09/11/2009 02:25:30 PM 446 Views
Yes, it's allowed. Aeryn - 09/11/2009 02:43:18 PM 662 Views
This is why I love the USA ironclad - 09/11/2009 03:28:52 PM 499 Views
"i just turned 21, it's my first time in a bar" sounds like the wrong thing to say somehow... moondog - 09/11/2009 04:17:12 PM 602 Views
It would certainly break the ice. *NM* Aeryn - 09/11/2009 08:45:29 PM 216 Views
Don't get a buzz going before you go there! ironclad - 09/11/2009 03:08:26 PM 540 Views
Dude, she's 21! Tigr - 09/11/2009 03:14:44 PM 457 Views
I know! ironclad - 09/11/2009 03:18:52 PM 546 Views
That's what I'm depending on other people doing. cabbage - 11/11/2009 12:09:42 AM 435 Views
Absolutely go to a bar by yoursefl. Tigr - 09/11/2009 03:16:38 PM 453 Views
Well I can't give any advice on gay bars random thoughts - 09/11/2009 04:12:26 PM 519 Views
go at happy hour moondog - 09/11/2009 04:16:25 PM 613 Views
Funniest title ever. nossy - 09/11/2009 04:54:46 PM 542 Views
It's perfectly fine and normal Stephen - 09/11/2009 10:12:23 PM 534 Views
Hah! Glad I could be of service Mat Maniac - 10/11/2009 05:24:34 AM 468 Views
The main thing is relax Mark - 10/11/2009 05:40:28 PM 622 Views
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