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It's perfectly fine and normal Stephen Send a noteboard - 09/11/2009 10:12:23 PM
First off, you all know I'm completely hopeless at social things, for a pretty good combination of reasons. But that doesn't change the fact that I've recently turned 21 and have still never been to a bar in my city. And I want to have one little tiny taste of that college experience. Problem is, I don't really have friends here - well, I have one, but he's odd and I'm sort of angry at him anyway. :P

Don't let it stop you. Go out. have fun.
Actually, what I really want to do is go to a lesbian/gay bar. Two new experiences in one! That would even more definitely rule out the hetero male friend, though.

So, yeah. How does one go about this? How do you even know which bars cater to the LGBTs? What kind of clothing do you wear? Does it mark you as a pathetic loser if you just sit there by yourself at the counter?

I imagine google may be your friend for lgbt-bar-finding activity. Wear whatever clothes you want and try to talk to some people. the worst that can happen is that they be uninterested.
I'm not looking to do anything wild or crazy, and I'm probably too shy to dance, so maybe it's just a bad idea anyway. All I really want to get out of it is a good beer and maybe a conversation with a pretty girl or two. Curiosity. You know.

Sounds like a good plan. Go for it.
All advice welcome.

I don't know if what i said counts as advice, but i hope it helps
Also, thanks to Mat Maniac for making me feel less embarrassed about my embarrassing social problems by posting about his own. ;)
"I mean, if everyone had a soul, there would be no contrast by which we could appreciate it. For giving us this perspective, we thank you." - Nate
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Need social advice. Is it... you know... allowed to go to a bar by yourself? Lupine - 09/11/2009 03:57:51 AM 1139 Views
Eek! I'm sorry I'm sorry! Lupine - 09/11/2009 03:58:21 AM 709 Views
Of course it is! Brian - 09/11/2009 04:06:22 AM 634 Views
For girls too? Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:22:09 PM 599 Views
Yeah Brian - 09/11/2009 04:30:27 PM 666 Views
If all you want is some place to have a good beer, then don't go to a LGBT bar. MightyYT - 09/11/2009 05:11:08 AM 614 Views
I think I can overcome the urge to dance, as long as it won't make me a pariah. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:20:46 PM 544 Views
Dude, this has nothing to do with TV Monkey - 09/11/2009 07:43:33 AM 702 Views
I know! I'm a dork! Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:13:10 PM 754 Views
It's hard, and I admire anyone who can pull it off. AgentOrange - 09/11/2009 10:21:43 AM 631 Views
Same here ironclad - 09/11/2009 11:36:30 AM 566 Views
Hm. I'm used to feeling socially awkward already, though. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:07:45 PM 668 Views
Bring a book? *NM* Camilla - 09/11/2009 11:01:54 AM 360 Views
... but which book? Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:09:29 PM 533 Views
If you take a book.. @my - 09/11/2009 02:12:13 PM 633 Views
To a gay bar in the midwest? Hehe. cabbage - 09/11/2009 02:29:07 PM 687 Views
lol, oh dear. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:43:41 PM 677 Views
Re: Twelve at a time! *NM* Danae al'Thor - 10/11/2009 04:04:41 AM 241 Views
Of course it is. Elaine - 09/11/2009 12:40:06 PM 639 Views
Thank you, that's good advice. *NM* Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:08:16 PM 254 Views
I've been to straight bars, and gay bars.. @my - 09/11/2009 02:11:40 PM 790 Views
Thank you, Amy, that really helps. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:16:33 PM 678 Views
You could ask 'teh gay' that you know that lives in the same city as you do. The Shrike - 09/11/2009 02:16:12 PM 592 Views
I was being passive. Hoping you would see this and respond. Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:18:59 PM 570 Views
No, I'll reply in full/send noteboard. We can arrange something so you don't go alone. The Shrike - 09/11/2009 02:22:44 PM 582 Views
*NM* Lupine - 09/11/2009 02:34:37 PM 298 Views
<3 @my - 10/11/2009 02:26:04 AM 684 Views
It is nice of him, isn't it? *NM* Lupine - 10/11/2009 02:57:00 AM 313 Views
Exceptionally so. @my - 10/11/2009 03:00:43 AM 606 Views
Get a buzz going before you go there? cabbage - 09/11/2009 02:25:30 PM 539 Views
Yes, it's allowed. Aeryn - 09/11/2009 02:43:18 PM 762 Views
This is why I love the USA ironclad - 09/11/2009 03:28:52 PM 595 Views
"i just turned 21, it's my first time in a bar" sounds like the wrong thing to say somehow... moondog - 09/11/2009 04:17:12 PM 698 Views
It would certainly break the ice. *NM* Aeryn - 09/11/2009 08:45:29 PM 250 Views
Don't get a buzz going before you go there! ironclad - 09/11/2009 03:08:26 PM 620 Views
Dude, she's 21! Tigr - 09/11/2009 03:14:44 PM 539 Views
I know! ironclad - 09/11/2009 03:18:52 PM 630 Views
That's what I'm depending on other people doing. cabbage - 11/11/2009 12:09:42 AM 518 Views
Absolutely go to a bar by yoursefl. Tigr - 09/11/2009 03:16:38 PM 524 Views
Well I can't give any advice on gay bars random thoughts - 09/11/2009 04:12:26 PM 600 Views
go at happy hour moondog - 09/11/2009 04:16:25 PM 696 Views
Funniest title ever. nossy - 09/11/2009 04:54:46 PM 626 Views
It's perfectly fine and normal Stephen - 09/11/2009 10:12:23 PM 635 Views
Hah! Glad I could be of service Mat Maniac - 10/11/2009 05:24:34 AM 554 Views
The main thing is relax Mark - 10/11/2009 05:40:28 PM 722 Views
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