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Ask questions... Phelix Send a noteboard - 19/12/2009 02:12:41 AM
How do you have intimate conversations, and build deep connections? I'm good with groups, but one on one, it's always weird.


I forget who the author was, but he wrote a story about how he spent one evening at a party only asking questions and getting people to talk about themselves. People said that he was the most skillful conversationalist they met that night.

When you ask people to talk about themselves, it shows you're interested in learning, and that you think they are interesting. Intimate details will grow out of this kind of conversation.
I was Phelix on wotmania, I will always be Phelix in the "real" world, and now I am Phelix on RAFO.

You will make all kinds of mistakes; but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her.- Churchill

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How do you make friends? Postsecret - 19/12/2009 12:49:09 AM 993 Views
I use a combination of LEGOs and K'Nex to make mine. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2009 01:33:21 AM 272 Views
I steal Jack's once he has made them. *NM* snoopcester - 19/12/2009 02:01:38 PM 277 Views
I use my fists. *NM* Chas - 19/12/2009 02:08:07 AM 319 Views
He said friends, not lovers. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2009 02:32:26 AM 281 Views
Ask questions... Phelix - 19/12/2009 02:12:41 AM 731 Views
word. people LOVE to talk about themselves ... *NM* Velveti - 19/12/2009 02:34:52 AM 401 Views
You can't only ask questions, that makes people uncomfortable. cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:32:35 AM 712 Views
I disagree... Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:35:05 AM 710 Views
Of course, it just can't be all you do. cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:39:08 AM 659 Views
Well, I am quite vain. Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:45:26 AM 676 Views
OK, but. . . cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:50:32 AM 683 Views
Yes, actually... Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:55:50 AM 679 Views
Well. I'd've demanded some information about you. *NM* cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:02:47 AM 299 Views
Some people try that... Phelix - 19/12/2009 08:04:16 AM 663 Views
Totally would not have accepted that at all. cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:23:28 AM 671 Views
I can be quite stubborn, you know. Phelix - 19/12/2009 08:29:32 AM 669 Views
No, I wouldn't. Really, really wouldn't. XD cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:53:56 AM 622 Views
Heh... obviously, we would clash as we mingled at a social function. Phelix - 19/12/2009 09:17:29 AM 653 Views
Yeah. But we could clash in a fun way! cabbage - 19/12/2009 10:09:23 AM 645 Views
Do you watch Flight of the Conchords by any chance? Craig - 20/12/2009 10:47:55 PM 694 Views
i'm really not even sure how i made mine xD *NM* LadyLorraine - 19/12/2009 02:38:35 AM 290 Views
Blackmail? *NM* callandor1000 - 19/12/2009 06:17:48 PM 400 Views
Hide how weird you really are until it's too late. *NM* Brian - 19/12/2009 03:27:49 AM 277 Views
^this one. It always works. AliasRY - 19/12/2009 05:09:30 AM 750 Views
Body parts, a castle, and some serious lightning. *NM* jh - 19/12/2009 07:33:38 AM 297 Views
find people who have the same interests as you @my - 19/12/2009 09:17:04 AM 661 Views
A series of comical adventures.. Kel - 19/12/2009 01:59:17 PM 664 Views
Re: very slowly. Danae al'Thor - 19/12/2009 03:01:37 PM 797 Views
But you're hot Helene - 20/12/2009 07:32:09 AM 657 Views
Re: They're not all hot in return. Danae al'Thor - 20/12/2009 03:09:30 PM 677 Views
Do you know what you want? Palatine - 19/12/2009 06:05:40 PM 748 Views
Hand out memos listing my amazing qualities. *NM* Liam - 20/12/2009 02:41:11 AM 299 Views
I simply kept the ones from KiGa, school and high school ironclad - 20/12/2009 02:12:19 PM 657 Views
I am just that awesome and have a knack for putting people at ease around me. *NM* MightyYT - 20/12/2009 06:17:05 PM 323 Views
I only make enemies. And occasionally s'mores. Craig - 20/12/2009 10:48:55 PM 687 Views
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