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Ask questions... Phelix Send a noteboard - 19/12/2009 02:12:41 AM
How do you have intimate conversations, and build deep connections? I'm good with groups, but one on one, it's always weird.


I forget who the author was, but he wrote a story about how he spent one evening at a party only asking questions and getting people to talk about themselves. People said that he was the most skillful conversationalist they met that night.

When you ask people to talk about themselves, it shows you're interested in learning, and that you think they are interesting. Intimate details will grow out of this kind of conversation.
I was Phelix on wotmania, I will always be Phelix in the "real" world, and now I am Phelix on RAFO.

You will make all kinds of mistakes; but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her.- Churchill

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How do you make friends? Postsecret - 19/12/2009 12:49:09 AM 898 Views
I use a combination of LEGOs and K'Nex to make mine. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2009 01:33:21 AM 232 Views
I steal Jack's once he has made them. *NM* snoopcester - 19/12/2009 02:01:38 PM 238 Views
I use my fists. *NM* Chas - 19/12/2009 02:08:07 AM 271 Views
He said friends, not lovers. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2009 02:32:26 AM 239 Views
Ask questions... Phelix - 19/12/2009 02:12:41 AM 633 Views
word. people LOVE to talk about themselves ... *NM* Velveti - 19/12/2009 02:34:52 AM 352 Views
You can't only ask questions, that makes people uncomfortable. cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:32:35 AM 624 Views
I disagree... Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:35:05 AM 622 Views
Of course, it just can't be all you do. cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:39:08 AM 565 Views
Well, I am quite vain. Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:45:26 AM 584 Views
OK, but. . . cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:50:32 AM 591 Views
Yes, actually... Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:55:50 AM 588 Views
Well. I'd've demanded some information about you. *NM* cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:02:47 AM 253 Views
Some people try that... Phelix - 19/12/2009 08:04:16 AM 569 Views
Totally would not have accepted that at all. cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:23:28 AM 571 Views
I can be quite stubborn, you know. Phelix - 19/12/2009 08:29:32 AM 585 Views
No, I wouldn't. Really, really wouldn't. XD cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:53:56 AM 537 Views
Heh... obviously, we would clash as we mingled at a social function. Phelix - 19/12/2009 09:17:29 AM 558 Views
Yeah. But we could clash in a fun way! cabbage - 19/12/2009 10:09:23 AM 557 Views
Do you watch Flight of the Conchords by any chance? Craig - 20/12/2009 10:47:55 PM 597 Views
i'm really not even sure how i made mine xD *NM* LadyLorraine - 19/12/2009 02:38:35 AM 245 Views
Blackmail? *NM* callandor1000 - 19/12/2009 06:17:48 PM 249 Views
Hide how weird you really are until it's too late. *NM* Brian - 19/12/2009 03:27:49 AM 225 Views
^this one. It always works. AliasRY - 19/12/2009 05:09:30 AM 633 Views
Body parts, a castle, and some serious lightning. *NM* jh - 19/12/2009 07:33:38 AM 250 Views
find people who have the same interests as you @my - 19/12/2009 09:17:04 AM 558 Views
A series of comical adventures.. Kel - 19/12/2009 01:59:17 PM 572 Views
Re: very slowly. Danae al'Thor - 19/12/2009 03:01:37 PM 705 Views
But you're hot Helene - 20/12/2009 07:32:09 AM 565 Views
Re: They're not all hot in return. Danae al'Thor - 20/12/2009 03:09:30 PM 595 Views
Do you know what you want? Palatine - 19/12/2009 06:05:40 PM 653 Views
Hand out memos listing my amazing qualities. *NM* Liam - 20/12/2009 02:41:11 AM 259 Views
I simply kept the ones from KiGa, school and high school ironclad - 20/12/2009 02:12:19 PM 560 Views
I am just that awesome and have a knack for putting people at ease around me. *NM* MightyYT - 20/12/2009 06:17:05 PM 273 Views
I only make enemies. And occasionally s'mores. Craig - 20/12/2009 10:48:55 PM 595 Views
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