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Ask questions... Phelix Send a noteboard - 19/12/2009 02:12:41 AM
How do you have intimate conversations, and build deep connections? I'm good with groups, but one on one, it's always weird.


I forget who the author was, but he wrote a story about how he spent one evening at a party only asking questions and getting people to talk about themselves. People said that he was the most skillful conversationalist they met that night.

When you ask people to talk about themselves, it shows you're interested in learning, and that you think they are interesting. Intimate details will grow out of this kind of conversation.
I was Phelix on wotmania, I will always be Phelix in the "real" world, and now I am Phelix on RAFO.

You will make all kinds of mistakes; but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her.- Churchill

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How do you make friends? Postsecret - 19/12/2009 12:49:09 AM 947 Views
I use a combination of LEGOs and K'Nex to make mine. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2009 01:33:21 AM 252 Views
I steal Jack's once he has made them. *NM* snoopcester - 19/12/2009 02:01:38 PM 261 Views
I use my fists. *NM* Chas - 19/12/2009 02:08:07 AM 298 Views
He said friends, not lovers. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 19/12/2009 02:32:26 AM 261 Views
Ask questions... Phelix - 19/12/2009 02:12:41 AM 687 Views
word. people LOVE to talk about themselves ... *NM* Velveti - 19/12/2009 02:34:52 AM 379 Views
You can't only ask questions, that makes people uncomfortable. cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:32:35 AM 677 Views
I disagree... Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:35:05 AM 667 Views
Of course, it just can't be all you do. cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:39:08 AM 614 Views
Well, I am quite vain. Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:45:26 AM 635 Views
OK, but. . . cabbage - 19/12/2009 07:50:32 AM 644 Views
Yes, actually... Phelix - 19/12/2009 07:55:50 AM 637 Views
Well. I'd've demanded some information about you. *NM* cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:02:47 AM 279 Views
Some people try that... Phelix - 19/12/2009 08:04:16 AM 622 Views
Totally would not have accepted that at all. cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:23:28 AM 628 Views
I can be quite stubborn, you know. Phelix - 19/12/2009 08:29:32 AM 628 Views
No, I wouldn't. Really, really wouldn't. XD cabbage - 19/12/2009 08:53:56 AM 579 Views
Heh... obviously, we would clash as we mingled at a social function. Phelix - 19/12/2009 09:17:29 AM 615 Views
Yeah. But we could clash in a fun way! cabbage - 19/12/2009 10:09:23 AM 604 Views
Do you watch Flight of the Conchords by any chance? Craig - 20/12/2009 10:47:55 PM 656 Views
i'm really not even sure how i made mine xD *NM* LadyLorraine - 19/12/2009 02:38:35 AM 271 Views
Blackmail? *NM* callandor1000 - 19/12/2009 06:17:48 PM 283 Views
Hide how weird you really are until it's too late. *NM* Brian - 19/12/2009 03:27:49 AM 257 Views
^this one. It always works. AliasRY - 19/12/2009 05:09:30 AM 684 Views
Body parts, a castle, and some serious lightning. *NM* jh - 19/12/2009 07:33:38 AM 281 Views
find people who have the same interests as you @my - 19/12/2009 09:17:04 AM 615 Views
A series of comical adventures.. Kel - 19/12/2009 01:59:17 PM 626 Views
Re: very slowly. Danae al'Thor - 19/12/2009 03:01:37 PM 760 Views
But you're hot Helene - 20/12/2009 07:32:09 AM 618 Views
Re: They're not all hot in return. Danae al'Thor - 20/12/2009 03:09:30 PM 639 Views
Do you know what you want? Palatine - 19/12/2009 06:05:40 PM 710 Views
Hand out memos listing my amazing qualities. *NM* Liam - 20/12/2009 02:41:11 AM 280 Views
I simply kept the ones from KiGa, school and high school ironclad - 20/12/2009 02:12:19 PM 615 Views
I am just that awesome and have a knack for putting people at ease around me. *NM* MightyYT - 20/12/2009 06:17:05 PM 301 Views
I only make enemies. And occasionally s'mores. Craig - 20/12/2009 10:48:55 PM 649 Views
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