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I totally see what you mean and agree on all accounts ironclad Send a noteboard - 26/01/2010 08:53:16 AM
I told her that I do not take an "I Love You" lightly and I won't say it unless I am sure that I mean it. I know this isn't what she wanted to hear, but THAT is not something I am going to say just to make someone else feel better. It is too important and means to much to be tossed around as some kind of emotional sop.

Same here.

(Ladies, the first anniversary you SHOULD celebrate is 6 months. Anything earlier is just rediculous. FYI)

Exactly.

So I don't know what to do now. It's only been two months, I don't love her but I do care about her. And I know that one person putting oneself out there in a relationship like that does put a strain on the relationship. But I won't say it unless I feel it and mean it. I don't know what else I can do. I have already explained this to her, but it didn't seem to help.

What do I do now?


Good question. You seemed to make your point towards her quite cleary. Maybe repetition will work. Tell her (again) you care for her and see a long term thing in this, but that it takes love to grow. How people can even say "I love you" after only months is beyond me.
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You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
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Why do people say it? MightyYT - 26/01/2010 08:43:26 AM 989 Views
I totally see what you mean and agree on all accounts ironclad - 26/01/2010 08:53:16 AM 673 Views
I knew I loved Tim quite early on. Rebekah - 26/01/2010 02:04:01 PM 553 Views
I dunno ironclad - 26/01/2010 02:19:49 PM 572 Views
Re: I dunno Amys - 27/01/2010 01:02:16 AM 563 Views
Just stand your ground ßelals Girl - 26/01/2010 09:24:25 AM 574 Views
That is my plan so far. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:01:03 PM 525 Views
Dunno. nossy - 26/01/2010 11:44:56 AM 531 Views
My exact words to her were.. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:06:31 PM 512 Views
I would go with my usual line Hobgoblin - 26/01/2010 12:47:59 PM 592 Views
I know people can fall fast... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:08:33 PM 474 Views
Eesh. Elaine - 26/01/2010 01:26:06 PM 547 Views
The problem isn't them wanting you to say it is them wanting you to prove it random thoughts - 26/01/2010 01:54:16 PM 534 Views
That type of emotional blackmail does not work on me. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:10:37 PM 538 Views
isn't pretty much what she is doing now? random thoughts - 26/01/2010 05:55:41 PM 507 Views
If I were you... Lici - 26/01/2010 02:05:04 PM 620 Views
agreed, although anything "if you X, you would X" should be avoided LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 03:16:11 PM 515 Views
Lici - 26/01/2010 03:28:59 PM 670 Views
I agree but we happen to know the day LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 03:52:20 PM 513 Views
I wish I knew the day...would make things easier. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:35:55 PM 524 Views
oh shut up LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 10:55:22 PM 556 Views
Lici - 26/01/2010 11:29:23 PM 547 Views
I don't find it that odd that it was the boyfriend's idea random thoughts - 26/01/2010 04:05:21 PM 563 Views
mine doesn't LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 04:25:26 PM 554 Views
Not in this case. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:32:00 PM 563 Views
teenagers are just wierd random thoughts - 26/01/2010 11:48:14 PM 554 Views
She's not a teenager. Lici - 26/01/2010 11:51:06 PM 525 Views
That is why God invented dark random thoughts - 27/01/2010 01:02:44 AM 523 Views
Hmm. Lici - 27/01/2010 01:06:04 AM 512 Views
it was close random thoughts - 27/01/2010 01:35:54 AM 499 Views
I knew a couple that did that Brian - 26/01/2010 04:50:41 PM 504 Views
Wow. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:33:21 PM 511 Views
Women are mysterious creatures. Tigr - 26/01/2010 02:18:10 PM 538 Views
They way all wise men handle advice about women. *NM* MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:13:36 PM 226 Views
It sucks, but there's nothing else you can do. Sareitha Sedai - 26/01/2010 03:02:42 PM 713 Views
This isn't somehting I can compromise on... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:18:45 PM 520 Views
Just tell her what you said in the first paragraph there.... Brian - 26/01/2010 04:57:55 PM 517 Views
It's a good tale of not just that...but of... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:21:29 PM 522 Views
We don't by any chance have the same ex-wife do we?? Brian - 26/01/2010 05:49:59 PM 621 Views
Not unless you got married and divorced in the last 3.5 years. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 06:32:34 PM 693 Views
I have a question. Tashmere - 27/01/2010 01:49:18 AM 486 Views
She is 26. MightyYT - 27/01/2010 08:22:41 AM 569 Views
Ah. So she wasn't pressuring you. She was just being open about how she was feeling and why she Tashmere - 27/01/2010 12:30:01 PM 591 Views
Hmmm...that may be MightyYT - 27/01/2010 06:05:14 PM 506 Views
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