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I totally see what you mean and agree on all accounts ironclad Send a noteboard - 26/01/2010 08:53:16 AM
I told her that I do not take an "I Love You" lightly and I won't say it unless I am sure that I mean it. I know this isn't what she wanted to hear, but THAT is not something I am going to say just to make someone else feel better. It is too important and means to much to be tossed around as some kind of emotional sop.

Same here.

(Ladies, the first anniversary you SHOULD celebrate is 6 months. Anything earlier is just rediculous. FYI)

Exactly.

So I don't know what to do now. It's only been two months, I don't love her but I do care about her. And I know that one person putting oneself out there in a relationship like that does put a strain on the relationship. But I won't say it unless I feel it and mean it. I don't know what else I can do. I have already explained this to her, but it didn't seem to help.

What do I do now?


Good question. You seemed to make your point towards her quite cleary. Maybe repetition will work. Tell her (again) you care for her and see a long term thing in this, but that it takes love to grow. How people can even say "I love you" after only months is beyond me.
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You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
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Why do people say it? MightyYT - 26/01/2010 08:43:26 AM 1005 Views
I totally see what you mean and agree on all accounts ironclad - 26/01/2010 08:53:16 AM 694 Views
I knew I loved Tim quite early on. Rebekah - 26/01/2010 02:04:01 PM 579 Views
I dunno ironclad - 26/01/2010 02:19:49 PM 590 Views
Re: I dunno Amys - 27/01/2010 01:02:16 AM 582 Views
Just stand your ground ßelals Girl - 26/01/2010 09:24:25 AM 592 Views
That is my plan so far. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:01:03 PM 545 Views
Dunno. nossy - 26/01/2010 11:44:56 AM 546 Views
My exact words to her were.. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:06:31 PM 531 Views
I would go with my usual line Hobgoblin - 26/01/2010 12:47:59 PM 613 Views
I know people can fall fast... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:08:33 PM 493 Views
Eesh. Elaine - 26/01/2010 01:26:06 PM 565 Views
The problem isn't them wanting you to say it is them wanting you to prove it random thoughts - 26/01/2010 01:54:16 PM 552 Views
That type of emotional blackmail does not work on me. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:10:37 PM 563 Views
isn't pretty much what she is doing now? random thoughts - 26/01/2010 05:55:41 PM 525 Views
If I were you... Lici - 26/01/2010 02:05:04 PM 640 Views
agreed, although anything "if you X, you would X" should be avoided LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 03:16:11 PM 535 Views
Lici - 26/01/2010 03:28:59 PM 684 Views
I agree but we happen to know the day LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 03:52:20 PM 536 Views
I wish I knew the day...would make things easier. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:35:55 PM 541 Views
oh shut up LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 10:55:22 PM 573 Views
Lici - 26/01/2010 11:29:23 PM 564 Views
I don't find it that odd that it was the boyfriend's idea random thoughts - 26/01/2010 04:05:21 PM 585 Views
mine doesn't LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 04:25:26 PM 571 Views
Not in this case. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:32:00 PM 582 Views
teenagers are just wierd random thoughts - 26/01/2010 11:48:14 PM 573 Views
She's not a teenager. Lici - 26/01/2010 11:51:06 PM 548 Views
That is why God invented dark random thoughts - 27/01/2010 01:02:44 AM 539 Views
Hmm. Lici - 27/01/2010 01:06:04 AM 532 Views
it was close random thoughts - 27/01/2010 01:35:54 AM 519 Views
I knew a couple that did that Brian - 26/01/2010 04:50:41 PM 526 Views
Wow. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:33:21 PM 524 Views
Women are mysterious creatures. Tigr - 26/01/2010 02:18:10 PM 555 Views
They way all wise men handle advice about women. *NM* MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:13:36 PM 233 Views
It sucks, but there's nothing else you can do. Sareitha Sedai - 26/01/2010 03:02:42 PM 730 Views
This isn't somehting I can compromise on... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:18:45 PM 539 Views
Just tell her what you said in the first paragraph there.... Brian - 26/01/2010 04:57:55 PM 536 Views
It's a good tale of not just that...but of... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:21:29 PM 542 Views
We don't by any chance have the same ex-wife do we?? Brian - 26/01/2010 05:49:59 PM 639 Views
Not unless you got married and divorced in the last 3.5 years. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 06:32:34 PM 716 Views
I have a question. Tashmere - 27/01/2010 01:49:18 AM 503 Views
She is 26. MightyYT - 27/01/2010 08:22:41 AM 588 Views
Ah. So she wasn't pressuring you. She was just being open about how she was feeling and why she Tashmere - 27/01/2010 12:30:01 PM 619 Views
Hmmm...that may be MightyYT - 27/01/2010 06:05:14 PM 523 Views
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