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I totally see what you mean and agree on all accounts ironclad Send a noteboard - 26/01/2010 08:53:16 AM
I told her that I do not take an "I Love You" lightly and I won't say it unless I am sure that I mean it. I know this isn't what she wanted to hear, but THAT is not something I am going to say just to make someone else feel better. It is too important and means to much to be tossed around as some kind of emotional sop.

Same here.

(Ladies, the first anniversary you SHOULD celebrate is 6 months. Anything earlier is just rediculous. FYI)

Exactly.

So I don't know what to do now. It's only been two months, I don't love her but I do care about her. And I know that one person putting oneself out there in a relationship like that does put a strain on the relationship. But I won't say it unless I feel it and mean it. I don't know what else I can do. I have already explained this to her, but it didn't seem to help.

What do I do now?


Good question. You seemed to make your point towards her quite cleary. Maybe repetition will work. Tell her (again) you care for her and see a long term thing in this, but that it takes love to grow. How people can even say "I love you" after only months is beyond me.
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You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.
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Why do people say it? MightyYT - 26/01/2010 08:43:26 AM 874 Views
I totally see what you mean and agree on all accounts ironclad - 26/01/2010 08:53:16 AM 548 Views
I knew I loved Tim quite early on. Rebekah - 26/01/2010 02:04:01 PM 443 Views
I dunno ironclad - 26/01/2010 02:19:49 PM 433 Views
Re: I dunno Amys - 27/01/2010 01:02:16 AM 443 Views
Just stand your ground ßelals Girl - 26/01/2010 09:24:25 AM 463 Views
That is my plan so far. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:01:03 PM 417 Views
Dunno. nossy - 26/01/2010 11:44:56 AM 429 Views
My exact words to her were.. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:06:31 PM 402 Views
I would go with my usual line Hobgoblin - 26/01/2010 12:47:59 PM 476 Views
I know people can fall fast... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:08:33 PM 369 Views
Eesh. Elaine - 26/01/2010 01:26:06 PM 438 Views
The problem isn't them wanting you to say it is them wanting you to prove it random thoughts - 26/01/2010 01:54:16 PM 422 Views
That type of emotional blackmail does not work on me. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:10:37 PM 417 Views
isn't pretty much what she is doing now? random thoughts - 26/01/2010 05:55:41 PM 398 Views
If I were you... Lici - 26/01/2010 02:05:04 PM 497 Views
agreed, although anything "if you X, you would X" should be avoided LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 03:16:11 PM 408 Views
Lici - 26/01/2010 03:28:59 PM 571 Views
I agree but we happen to know the day LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 03:52:20 PM 405 Views
I wish I knew the day...would make things easier. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:35:55 PM 412 Views
oh shut up LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 10:55:22 PM 444 Views
Lici - 26/01/2010 11:29:23 PM 439 Views
I don't find it that odd that it was the boyfriend's idea random thoughts - 26/01/2010 04:05:21 PM 441 Views
mine doesn't LadyLorraine - 26/01/2010 04:25:26 PM 442 Views
Not in this case. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:32:00 PM 457 Views
teenagers are just wierd random thoughts - 26/01/2010 11:48:14 PM 438 Views
She's not a teenager. Lici - 26/01/2010 11:51:06 PM 417 Views
That is why God invented dark random thoughts - 27/01/2010 01:02:44 AM 413 Views
Hmm. Lici - 27/01/2010 01:06:04 AM 408 Views
it was close random thoughts - 27/01/2010 01:35:54 AM 393 Views
I knew a couple that did that Brian - 26/01/2010 04:50:41 PM 391 Views
Wow. Lici - 26/01/2010 09:33:21 PM 401 Views
Women are mysterious creatures. Tigr - 26/01/2010 02:18:10 PM 428 Views
They way all wise men handle advice about women. *NM* MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:13:36 PM 177 Views
It sucks, but there's nothing else you can do. Sareitha Sedai - 26/01/2010 03:02:42 PM 589 Views
This isn't somehting I can compromise on... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:18:45 PM 396 Views
Just tell her what you said in the first paragraph there.... Brian - 26/01/2010 04:57:55 PM 400 Views
It's a good tale of not just that...but of... MightyYT - 26/01/2010 05:21:29 PM 411 Views
We don't by any chance have the same ex-wife do we?? Brian - 26/01/2010 05:49:59 PM 507 Views
Not unless you got married and divorced in the last 3.5 years. MightyYT - 26/01/2010 06:32:34 PM 566 Views
I have a question. Tashmere - 27/01/2010 01:49:18 AM 380 Views
She is 26. MightyYT - 27/01/2010 08:22:41 AM 437 Views
Ah. So she wasn't pressuring you. She was just being open about how she was feeling and why she Tashmere - 27/01/2010 12:30:01 PM 481 Views
Hmmm...that may be MightyYT - 27/01/2010 06:05:14 PM 393 Views
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