It's official. Last Friday I asked Vincent to marry me. The occasion was our 250 weekaversary. This is what happened.
For months, I've known that I would ask him. I've contemplated many surprise city trips, hotel trips, weekend getaways. But on the one hand considering the financial limitations in light of our trip to the US early May, and on the other hand my worries that I might just pick a really shitty place and that'd always be the place where we'd gotten engaged and therefore special... I ended up deciding that since Vincent's favourite place in the world is Amsterdam, we'd stay here.
I'd arranged that Vincent would keep the weekend available and Vijay would stay with my parents. I asked him early in the day, during our after sex cuddling (I figured I'd better ask when he's at his most vulnerable! Muahahaha). He said yes!
From then on, we let the weekend be decided by fate. We'd put different lunch places and restaurants on little pieces of paper, and Vincent would pick one and that's where we'd go!
On Saturday we went to buy rings. Originally we thought that it would take a while to find the right ones, but we found the perfect rings (for us) within half an hour!
The Netherlands doesn't have the huge diamond tradition. We both got brushed silver rings, about 4-5 mm wide, flat surface. Mine has a shiny second ring placed diagonally around it, which is much thinner and round (like a string). As you can hear, they're simple, yet elegant (at least, that's what I think!).
We haven't set a wedding date yet. The idea is that we'll be engaged for some years. I realize it's unusual, but really, we'll need that time to find the perfect cake!
For months, I've known that I would ask him. I've contemplated many surprise city trips, hotel trips, weekend getaways. But on the one hand considering the financial limitations in light of our trip to the US early May, and on the other hand my worries that I might just pick a really shitty place and that'd always be the place where we'd gotten engaged and therefore special... I ended up deciding that since Vincent's favourite place in the world is Amsterdam, we'd stay here.
I'd arranged that Vincent would keep the weekend available and Vijay would stay with my parents. I asked him early in the day, during our after sex cuddling (I figured I'd better ask when he's at his most vulnerable! Muahahaha). He said yes!
From then on, we let the weekend be decided by fate. We'd put different lunch places and restaurants on little pieces of paper, and Vincent would pick one and that's where we'd go!
On Saturday we went to buy rings. Originally we thought that it would take a while to find the right ones, but we found the perfect rings (for us) within half an hour!
The Netherlands doesn't have the huge diamond tradition. We both got brushed silver rings, about 4-5 mm wide, flat surface. Mine has a shiny second ring placed diagonally around it, which is much thinner and round (like a string). As you can hear, they're simple, yet elegant (at least, that's what I think!).
We haven't set a wedding date yet. The idea is that we'll be engaged for some years. I realize it's unusual, but really, we'll need that time to find the perfect cake!
This message last edited by Helene on 11/02/2010 at 11:59:39 AM
Announcement: Vincent and I are engaged
- 11/02/2010 10:38:57 AM
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Congratulations!!
- 11/02/2010 10:52:32 AM
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Thank you!
- 11/02/2010 11:02:50 AM
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- 11/02/2010 10:52:32 AM
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Thank you!
- 11/02/2010 11:02:50 AM
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Re:
Thank you!
- 11/02/2010 01:07:37 PM
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Thank you!
- 11/02/2010 01:07:37 PM
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Elaborate!
- 11/02/2010 01:14:54 PM
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- 11/02/2010 03:46:05 PM
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- 11/02/2010 03:46:05 PM
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Congrats to both of you.
- 11/02/2010 11:52:53 AM
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- 11/02/2010 11:52:53 AM
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That's a tall order
- 11/02/2010 12:01:30 PM
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I'm sure you're up to it.
- 11/02/2010 12:10:36 PM
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Congratulations! That's lovely.
- 11/02/2010 01:03:05 PM
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- 11/02/2010 01:03:05 PM
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Ack!
- 11/02/2010 01:04:00 PM
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The planning's the fun bit.
- 11/02/2010 01:04:54 PM
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- 11/02/2010 01:04:54 PM
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I suppose it's fun when we've saved up to actually plan something fun!
- 11/02/2010 01:08:05 PM
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Congrats!
- 11/02/2010 01:42:52 PM
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- 11/02/2010 01:42:52 PM
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Thanks, and I'm a little confused
- 11/02/2010 01:44:57 PM
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Yes
- 11/02/2010 02:57:40 PM
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*gasp* Chick ain't supposed to ask the dude!
- 11/02/2010 06:39:16 PM
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- 11/02/2010 06:39:16 PM
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In gay marriages, does the top always ask the bottom?
*NM*
- 11/02/2010 07:27:11 PM
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*NM*
- 11/02/2010 07:27:11 PM
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I'm not sure, actually. More often than not, probably.
- 11/02/2010 07:28:58 PM
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- 11/02/2010 07:28:58 PM
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Im definitely more top in my relationship and I mention all the important stuff first
- 11/02/2010 08:05:15 PM
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Why not?
- 12/02/2010 07:08:03 AM
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It's....it's....it's just not done! *scandalized horror-stricken look*
- 12/02/2010 09:48:17 PM
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Did you say,"... doesn't have the huge diamond tradition"? Sounds like I need a Dutch girl!
- 12/02/2010 02:49:49 AM
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- 12/02/2010 02:49:49 AM
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And they'll pay for their own dinner when you take them out, too!
- 12/02/2010 12:06:15 PM
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- 12/02/2010 12:06:15 PM
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How wonderful! Congratulations!
- 12/02/2010 03:11:02 PM
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- 12/02/2010 03:11:02 PM
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Thank you so much and of course
- 12/02/2010 06:31:42 PM
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Are you both in Amsterdam now, or will we have to add Leiden to our itinerary? *NM*
- 12/02/2010 08:44:01 PM
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Why isn't Leiden on your itinerary already?
- 12/02/2010 09:39:02 PM
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- 12/02/2010 09:39:02 PM
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Where do you live?
- 12/02/2010 09:59:45 PM
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Ooh, excellent.
- 12/02/2010 10:57:41 PM
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Well, ain't that handy.
- 12/02/2010 11:41:32 PM
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Even better. Cheaper beers than in Brussels, that's for sure.
*NM*
- 13/02/2010 02:39:03 PM
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*NM*
- 13/02/2010 02:39:03 PM
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We live together in the lovely non-touristy central part of Amsterdam
- 13/02/2010 07:04:33 AM
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no it's not. SF all the way baby!