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Oo! Great Lord of Chaos Send a noteboard - 11/02/2010 12:10:06 PM
It's official. Last Friday I asked Vincent to marry me. The occasion was our 250 weekaversary. This is what happened.

For months, I've known that I would ask him. I've contemplated many surprise city trips, hotel trips, weekend getaways. But on the one hand considering the financial limitations in light of our trip to the US early May, and on the other hand my worries that I might just pick a really shitty place and that'd always be the place where we'd gotten engaged and therefore special... I ended up deciding that since Vincent's favourite place in the world is Amsterdam, we'd stay here.

I'd arranged that Vincent would keep the weekend available and Vijay would stay with my parents. I asked him early in the day, during our after sex cuddling (I figured I'd better ask when he's at his most vulnerable! Muahahaha). He said yes!

From then on, we let the weekend be decided by fate. We'd put different lunch places and restaurants on little pieces of paper, and Vincent would pick one and that's where we'd go!

On Saturday we went to buy rings. Originally we thought that it would take a while to find the right ones, but we found the perfect rings (for us) within half an hour!

The Netherlands doesn't have the huge diamond tradition. We both got brushed silver rings, about 4-5 mm wide, flat surface. Mine has a shiny second ring placed diagonally around it, which is much thinner and round (like a string). As you can hear, they're simple, yet elegant (at least, that's what I think!).

We haven't set a wedding date yet. The idea is that we'll be engaged for some years. I realize it's unusual, but really, we'll need that time to find the perfect cake!


Pictures are demanded.


Not of the sex-cuddling, though.
Ὦ ξεῖν', ἀγγέλλειν Λακεδαιμονίοις ὅτι τῇδε
κείμεθα, τοῖς κείνων ῥήμασι πειθόμενοι.
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Announcement: Vincent and I are engaged - 11/02/2010 10:38:57 AM 1404 Views
Congratulations!! - 11/02/2010 10:52:32 AM 739 Views
Thank you! - 11/02/2010 11:02:50 AM 711 Views
Re: Thank you! - 11/02/2010 01:07:37 PM 806 Views
Elaborate! - 11/02/2010 01:14:54 PM 737 Views
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ehehehe, she is so going to kill you. *NM* - 11/02/2010 03:51:27 PM 368 Views
Her silence has me even more worried now... *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:37:23 AM 374 Views
Entirely out of the loop... *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:06:21 AM 383 Views
I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 12/02/2010 09:36:38 AM 733 Views
Re: I didn't expect the Spannish Inquestion - 13/02/2010 07:01:19 AM 738 Views
Congratulations! - 11/02/2010 11:19:45 AM 762 Views
Definitely true - 11/02/2010 11:59:13 AM 703 Views
Congrats to both of you. - 11/02/2010 11:52:53 AM 978 Views
That's a tall order - 11/02/2010 12:01:30 PM 722 Views
I'm sure you're up to it. - 11/02/2010 12:10:36 PM 772 Views
Thanks for your faith in me - 11/02/2010 12:38:56 PM 748 Views
Welcome; I often have more faith in a person than in people. - 13/02/2010 09:45:48 AM 1243 Views
Oo! - 11/02/2010 12:10:06 PM 836 Views
Pictures of what? The cake? The rings? Us? - 11/02/2010 12:41:12 PM 732 Views
Congratulations. Have a wonderful day. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:15:06 PM 453 Views
That'll be rather a while - years. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:00 PM 368 Views
Very cool. Congrats. *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:34:31 PM 423 Views
Thank you! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:42:10 PM 398 Views
Congrats! *NM* - 11/02/2010 12:59:18 PM 393 Views
Yay. Thanks! *NM* - 11/02/2010 01:04:59 PM 439 Views
Congratulations! That's lovely. - 11/02/2010 01:03:05 PM 732 Views
Ack! - 11/02/2010 01:04:00 PM 738 Views
The planning's the fun bit. - 11/02/2010 01:04:54 PM 754 Views
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Not yet - 11/02/2010 01:15:23 PM 775 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:42:52 PM 641 Views
Thanks, and I'm a little confused - 11/02/2010 01:44:57 PM 723 Views
Yes - 11/02/2010 02:57:40 PM 709 Views
Figures... it's not normal in the Netherlands, though - 11/02/2010 03:37:17 PM 711 Views
Diamonds are gross. - 12/02/2010 03:59:10 PM 702 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 01:55:36 PM 726 Views
Re: Congrats! - 11/02/2010 02:10:49 PM 694 Views
Awww... - 11/02/2010 03:38:45 PM 701 Views
Awww - 11/02/2010 02:09:41 PM 785 Views
Congrats! - 11/02/2010 02:14:10 PM 762 Views
Congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 02:19:33 PM 400 Views
Congratulations. *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:44:27 PM 381 Views
congrats *NM* - 11/02/2010 04:47:39 PM 518 Views
yaaaay!!! congratulations! *NM* - 11/02/2010 05:10:46 PM 404 Views
*gasp* Chick ain't supposed to ask the dude! - 11/02/2010 06:39:16 PM 788 Views
In gay marriages, does the top always ask the bottom? *NM* - 11/02/2010 07:27:11 PM 410 Views
I'm not sure, actually. More often than not, probably. - 11/02/2010 07:28:58 PM 712 Views
He better ask for my blessing first!!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:05 PM 388 Views
We'll see. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:09:07 PM 361 Views
Im definitely more top in my relationship and I mention all the important stuff first - 11/02/2010 08:05:15 PM 690 Views
Top? Pfffft. Y'all are total lesbians. *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:10:01 PM 370 Views
Who would have thought conventional roles was you thing. - 11/02/2010 08:03:57 PM 614 Views
I'm totally on board with role....playing. - 11/02/2010 08:07:54 PM 700 Views
Why not? - 12/02/2010 07:08:03 AM 709 Views
It's....it's....it's just not done! *scandalized horror-stricken look* - 12/02/2010 09:48:17 PM 725 Views
I did it anyway! Muahahahaha. Also, I picked him up. - 13/02/2010 07:02:42 AM 685 Views
Good work! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:02:57 PM 311 Views
Congratulations!! *NM* - 11/02/2010 08:06:39 PM 362 Views
Awesome. - 11/02/2010 08:33:59 PM 832 Views
Owwww.. no it's not. SF all the way baby! - 12/02/2010 07:11:19 AM 704 Views
Congratulations, Helene ! - 12/02/2010 01:03:48 AM 888 Views
We're at least already well on our way, so far *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:13:05 AM 375 Views
Did you say,"... doesn't have the huge diamond tradition"? Sounds like I need a Dutch girl! - 12/02/2010 02:49:49 AM 735 Views
Dutch girls are a lot of fun, too *NM* - 12/02/2010 07:12:27 AM 367 Views
And they'll pay for their own dinner when you take them out, too! - 12/02/2010 12:06:15 PM 721 Views
Not all of us are that tall - 12/02/2010 12:28:51 PM 688 Views
How wonderful! Congratulations! - 12/02/2010 03:11:02 PM 712 Views
Thank you so much and of course - 12/02/2010 06:31:42 PM 787 Views
Are you both in Amsterdam now, or will we have to add Leiden to our itinerary? *NM* - 12/02/2010 08:44:01 PM 359 Views
Why isn't Leiden on your itinerary already? - 12/02/2010 09:39:02 PM 674 Views
Where do you live? - 12/02/2010 09:59:45 PM 718 Views
Ooh, excellent. - 12/02/2010 10:57:41 PM 940 Views
Well, ain't that handy. - 12/02/2010 11:41:32 PM 674 Views
Even better. Cheaper beers than in Brussels, that's for sure. *NM* - 13/02/2010 02:39:03 PM 388 Views
Congratulations *NM* - 12/02/2010 03:47:28 PM 360 Views
YAY! Congratulations! *NM* - 14/02/2010 04:10:45 AM 348 Views

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