You'd have to ask my wife, since it was by her preference, which is probably for the best since a) I'm a very casual and informal person and b) she's far more familiar with the European standard. She did not, however, wear a petticoat and hoop skirt, and we weren't pretending to get married in a non-existent land regardless. Most significantly, I did not refer to anything as "the definition of trying too hard". I don't have a problem with steampunk; I simply prefer the forms of it that offer more than idle entertainment, as I do with most books. That's also not to say there's anything wrong with idly entertaining books (there's not much depth to Tom Sawyer, and I've enjoyed that since I was five), that's just not normally my taste.