There is so much fear and uncertainty....I am in the same situation. In general, Indian/Pakistani culture includes children relying on their parents for so much more and for so much longer than in western culture. That reliance carries over past marriage as well. So if one of us makes the decision to marry an outsider, it is SO different from what culture is used to. It's scary for both the child and the parents. And that fear on the part of the parents is what is usually the basis for conflict.