that she grew up in a society where faggot was an insult and spoke without thinking. Like people do when they say something is "Retarded". No, they may not have anything against retarded people, but it's what they're used to saying, hearing, etc... She probably didn't think "ahhh yah i'll call them GAY. GAY to mean they're GIRLY. that'll SHOW 'EM." She used an insult that is a common societal insult, probably without thinking about what she was saying much at all (clearly).

While this is all still a problem, it's a societal problem and pointing fingers at her and going YOU NEED TO REEVALUATE YOUR VERY BEING SERIOUSLY HERE MISSY is silly. Like you've never mocked someone else with a word based on an insulting stereotype. Blonde, retard, ass (just think of how those poor donkeys feel!! )...