Which we already know she isn't good at.

Recapping my original point, and then giving up so I don't get grumpy: words have different meanings in different parts of the world. Just because she's an international athlete who travels doesn't mean that she's been exposed to every bad word under the sun and thus automatically knows every word that will offend people. And how often do people insult someone and then say which definition they're using?

When she travels it's for a specific purpose: sport. She won't necessarily learn new things about language when she's doing that. Maybe she has or should have been given training on sensitive issues. Whatever.

The point I have been trying to make is that she didn't necessarily have that meaning of the word in her mind. Maybe she'd come across it a few times before, but in my scenario the homosexual meaning will not be the one uppermost in her brain. When you're saying/typing something in such an instant form of communication the full breadth of meaning won't be there. It's quick, it's off the cuff, and so the meaning accessed is the simplest one.

I think saying that "she needs to do some soul-searching and decide what she really thinks about gay people" comes from your very understandable sensitivity to that word. And I think it's unnecessary in the (hypothetical but fairly likely) scenario I posed.

That's what I'm saying, and that's where I'll leave it.