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Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? BlackAdder Send a noteboard - 22/09/2010 08:55:34 PM
For example, when someone asks "may I know your name(, please)?" the answer is not "yes, you may"


But the actual question here is: "May I know your name?"; the answer is, "sure, it's Lyringlas". I mean, it is inferred that they want your name, but you're actually asking for the permission to do so. So if you take out the permission to ask for their name, what are you actually asking other than "who are you?". I just don't like this-- it isn't me being rude, I am pleasant on the phone, I just don't like asking permission.

you're asking permission to know, not to ask. Logically, if they accept, they will tell you the answer since the next question would be "what is your name, then?"

It's a matter of politeness I guess. Sometimes, people don't feel it's necessary to tell you who they are or just don't want to. But your phrase assumes they will tell you.
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. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 08:19:28 PM 1615 Views
I think "May I ask who's calling" is more polite. Sareitha Sedai - 22/09/2010 08:26:55 PM 1039 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 08:31:17 PM 997 Views
Well, but... Sareitha Sedai - 22/09/2010 08:42:22 PM 1078 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:05:01 PM 955 Views
you may not BE a receptionist... LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 09:20:09 PM 1106 Views
"And your name, so I can tell (the person you asked for)?" *NM* Hezzah - 23/09/2010 12:34:18 AM 482 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? BlackAdder - 22/09/2010 08:33:24 PM 1071 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 08:38:45 PM 907 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? BlackAdder - 22/09/2010 08:55:34 PM 1254 Views
Well, the whole asking permission bit is part of being polite. *NM* Ghavrel - 22/09/2010 09:05:43 PM 445 Views
. lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:06:47 PM 950 Views
Not so good for the phone answering, then. *NM* Ghavrel - 22/09/2010 11:29:34 PM 480 Views
Hmm... Isaac - 22/09/2010 08:59:23 PM 1107 Views
It's "who" *NM* Aeryn - 22/09/2010 09:50:15 PM 474 Views
Quite true Isaac - 22/09/2010 10:07:46 PM 1056 Views
I say, "May I ask who's calling?" Tigr - 22/09/2010 09:00:10 PM 1042 Views
What do you do if they say "No" ? TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 09:43:42 PM 986 Views
Than you say. ''Ok." They may have a reason for not disclosing their name. Aeryn - 22/09/2010 09:49:56 PM 1001 Views
That reason is often that they are nutters. M & M Maddy - 22/09/2010 10:29:19 PM 1108 Views
I hate it when people pull the "attorney-client privilege" thing. Ghavrel - 22/09/2010 11:31:01 PM 903 Views
They are almost invariably nutters. Elaine - 23/09/2010 01:45:41 PM 1352 Views
Ah, you mean because they want to sell my boss storm windows or vinyl siding. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 10:30:15 PM 481 Views
Tools! Tigr - 22/09/2010 10:13:32 PM 973 Views
I usually ask: "Who am I speaking with, again?" ironclad - 22/09/2010 09:12:29 PM 1082 Views
I'm of the opinion that when you are at work, you represent your employer M & M Maddy - 22/09/2010 09:14:58 PM 1208 Views
^ this. *NM* LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 09:23:00 PM 457 Views
Re: I'm of the opinion that when you are at work, you represent your employer lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:42:29 PM 1156 Views
+1 *NM* Rebekah - 22/09/2010 10:10:59 PM 540 Views
I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 09:27:05 PM 1137 Views
Re: I typically say something along the lines of "And who am I speaking to?" lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:40:10 PM 1148 Views
well, i can sympathize with that a bit at least LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 10:00:34 PM 1273 Views
"Who should I say is calling?" *NM* TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 09:41:57 PM 455 Views
This. It's polite, and asks the question correctly. beetnemesis - 23/09/2010 02:05:01 AM 954 Views
I usually say "Who may I say is calling?" but that works too... Tom - 23/09/2010 01:59:03 PM 1364 Views
language games..... temeraire - 22/09/2010 09:42:35 PM 1032 Views
There would be apoplectic outcries if I answered the phone in such a way lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:45:56 PM 1190 Views
yeah.... i'm happy i get to be informal! temeraire - 23/09/2010 02:58:31 AM 1067 Views
Who is this? is unprofessional random thoughts - 22/09/2010 09:45:05 PM 1059 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional lyringlas - 22/09/2010 09:48:58 PM 1234 Views
Re: Who is this? is unprofessional ironclad - 22/09/2010 09:54:13 PM 1037 Views
it is not US standards. *NM* LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 10:03:47 PM 492 Views
good. *NM* ironclad - 22/09/2010 10:13:22 PM 538 Views
I generally don't because BlackAdder - 22/09/2010 10:43:38 PM 924 Views
well fair enough... ironclad - 23/09/2010 08:07:08 AM 1026 Views
it doesn't matter if you HAVE to know their name. LadyLorraine - 22/09/2010 10:07:18 PM 1102 Views
You don’t have to transfer for them if they refuse but you should still ask politely random thoughts - 22/09/2010 10:31:55 PM 1100 Views
You are being silly and immature. Aeryn - 22/09/2010 09:49:20 PM 911 Views
Thanks for your input? lyringlas - 22/09/2010 10:17:21 PM 1132 Views
I usually say, "B*tch, who you be!?" Mats Gambling Buddy - 22/09/2010 10:13:57 PM 1014 Views
Do you pronounce that with a click sound? Sareitha Sedai - 22/09/2010 10:15:29 PM 1042 Views
And I be all, like, sobbing and crying cause you're a rude jerk. And then you laugh at me some more TaskmasterJack - 22/09/2010 10:33:38 PM 999 Views
Re: May I ask who's calling / Who is this? Zeeb - 22/09/2010 10:29:33 PM 857 Views
Perfect. *NM* Avendesora - 23/09/2010 12:47:14 AM 529 Views
No you are *NM* Zeeb - 23/09/2010 11:53:07 AM 522 Views
Please stop splitting hairs. You're way is simply inccorrect. You cannot justify the rudeness away. M & M Maddy - 22/09/2010 10:49:05 PM 1158 Views
politeness is practically the definition of professionalism. LadyLorraine - 23/09/2010 03:37:27 AM 1065 Views
Who is this? always comes across as rude. *NM* Chas - 22/09/2010 11:17:31 PM 456 Views
"Who may I say is calling, please?" is short and polite. Tashmere - 23/09/2010 01:13:43 AM 988 Views
when someone asks me "may I ask who's calling?"... damookster - 23/09/2010 03:29:30 AM 965 Views
that's because you're a tool LadyLorraine - 23/09/2010 03:39:08 AM 1289 Views
because it amuses me *NM* damookster - 23/09/2010 03:41:18 AM 478 Views
It's quite simple, really. Do you like getting paid? Then answer the phone the way your boss wants *NM* Missa Sedai - 24/09/2010 03:46:24 AM 515 Views
Huh Sareitha Sedai - 15/07/2015 02:06:55 PM 583 Views
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