And I don't have great advice for you. I'd just say to really, really talk about it, and trust your instincts. Because of the kids, it's important to truly think about the potential for any future, even though at present you're dealing with an awful thing (Look at me telling you what you already know.). I'm just saying that forcing yourself wouldn't be healthy for anyone, so you'll just have to see.

I hope you can find peace about it, but it'll probably take a little rage first. Get that steam out.